It comes down to the sub-communication
Example
Subject A: Creepy guy - Has a tactical agenda of getting some validation and satisfaction of touching women
Subject B: Cool guy - Loves to have fun, expressive and overall loves having great interactions
Creepy guy approaches a chick and starts talking. He goes to kino and chick gets uncomfortable and calls the guy creepy. She sensed his thoughts. The guys thought could've been...
- "YES! KINO!!!! This stuff on these seduction sites really work"
- "Yes I'm feeling up her arm its soo great"
- "OMG her ass feels so good on my lap"
Cool guy approaches and starts talking he is focused on having a great interaction and it just so happens that he is a touchy type of guy. The girl is having fun because the guy isn't focus on the kino its just something he does. His thoughts are...
- "Haha, I'm about to mess with this chick"
- "Girls, there so cute to play around with"
- "I'm just enjoying the interaction for what it is"
Basically both guys kino but one has a different thought that the behavior is coming from. Just imagine the creepy guy slapping a girls ass and a cool guy slapping a girls ass. The creepy guy thought of it as him getting a "FEEL" while the cool guy wasn't thinking of it like that. Instead he thought of it as pure fun and slapped her maybe because of something she did or said.
Now while that is an example another reason why the chick could've said that was basically her backwards rationalizing anything that might have happened with her and that guy and maybe she likes you and doesn't want you to run off because she can't say she "Likes the guy" to a guy that is standing in front of her that "She likes".