"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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so all girls are supposed to like being kinoed?
well, this one girl that i like seems to be an exception.
this other guy seems to be kinoing her, and she told me that she thinks he's creepy?

what do i do to not seem "creepy" like the other guy?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well, if you didn't use non-intrusive kino with your opener, kino should be fine if she shows interest in you. She probably doesn't want kino from the "creepy" guy in the first place because she's not interested in him. Is his kino a little too intimate for how well they know each other (like touching her upper thigh)? That could be the problem.
 
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It comes down to the sub-communication

Example

Subject A: Creepy guy - Has a tactical agenda of getting some validation and satisfaction of touching women

Subject B: Cool guy - Loves to have fun, expressive and overall loves having great interactions


Creepy guy approaches a chick and starts talking. He goes to kino and chick gets uncomfortable and calls the guy creepy. She sensed his thoughts. The guys thought could've been...
- "YES! KINO!!!! This stuff on these seduction sites really work"
- "Yes I'm feeling up her arm its soo great"
- "OMG her ass feels so good on my lap"

Cool guy approaches and starts talking he is focused on having a great interaction and it just so happens that he is a touchy type of guy. The girl is having fun because the guy isn't focus on the kino its just something he does. His thoughts are...
- "Haha, I'm about to mess with this chick"
- "Girls, there so cute to play around with"
- "I'm just enjoying the interaction for what it is"

Basically both guys kino but one has a different thought that the behavior is coming from. Just imagine the creepy guy slapping a girls ass and a cool guy slapping a girls ass. The creepy guy thought of it as him getting a "FEEL" while the cool guy wasn't thinking of it like that. Instead he thought of it as pure fun and slapped her maybe because of something she did or said.

Now while that is an example another reason why the chick could've said that was basically her backwards rationalizing anything that might have happened with her and that guy and maybe she likes you and doesn't want you to run off because she can't say she "Likes the guy" to a guy that is standing in front of her that "She likes".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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