"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Kino in old social circle from pre-Kino AFC days

UltimateDJuan

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Ok here's a quick summary.

In the AFC days I was usually the quiet guy in the group who rarely ever kino'd the girls in the social circle.

I've been in this social circle for a long time (maybe 6-7 years). Over that time i've mostly been a beta.

Now that i've learned about the importance of Kino, the idea of initiating it on people who i've known for a long time (who i have not been touchy with) concerns me, because it would immediately be seen as awkward since i've not been like that in the entire time people knew me.

I realize some of the people responding to this thread will say "ignore the old social circle and work on new prospects" but i'm really interested in seeing if I can change the perception of the group from seeing me as the passive guy, into a more alpha position.

So basically my question is: Will beginning a new wave of kino on the HBs in the group create an awkward situation (i'm guessing this is a yes) and if so what is the solution to this.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Nexus Polaris

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I'm going through the exact same thing right now with my group of friends. Trying to increase my rank within the system in a sense.

It's been my experience that the people who know you will be last to notice you change. You're a lot more likely to get better responses from new people who don't have a preconceived notion of what you are like.

That being said, I've definitely become more touchy feely with my female friends, but I'm also not out to get anything from them. In fact, I've disclosed with a few of them what I'm doing with this place, and I've basically explained that I'm just practicing on them to get more comfortable being casually physical with all women. They're generally pretty cool about it.
 

Maxtro

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Just start really slow and light with hand and arm touches. Then gradually work your way up to more intense kino. If you do it discreetly enough, nobody would notice the change.
 
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