"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kino in old social circle from pre-Kino AFC days

UltimateDJuan

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Ok here's a quick summary.

In the AFC days I was usually the quiet guy in the group who rarely ever kino'd the girls in the social circle.

I've been in this social circle for a long time (maybe 6-7 years). Over that time i've mostly been a beta.

Now that i've learned about the importance of Kino, the idea of initiating it on people who i've known for a long time (who i have not been touchy with) concerns me, because it would immediately be seen as awkward since i've not been like that in the entire time people knew me.

I realize some of the people responding to this thread will say "ignore the old social circle and work on new prospects" but i'm really interested in seeing if I can change the perception of the group from seeing me as the passive guy, into a more alpha position.

So basically my question is: Will beginning a new wave of kino on the HBs in the group create an awkward situation (i'm guessing this is a yes) and if so what is the solution to this.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Nexus Polaris

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I'm going through the exact same thing right now with my group of friends. Trying to increase my rank within the system in a sense.

It's been my experience that the people who know you will be last to notice you change. You're a lot more likely to get better responses from new people who don't have a preconceived notion of what you are like.

That being said, I've definitely become more touchy feely with my female friends, but I'm also not out to get anything from them. In fact, I've disclosed with a few of them what I'm doing with this place, and I've basically explained that I'm just practicing on them to get more comfortable being casually physical with all women. They're generally pretty cool about it.
 

Maxtro

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Just start really slow and light with hand and arm touches. Then gradually work your way up to more intense kino. If you do it discreetly enough, nobody would notice the change.
 
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