Kindness

[thelittleprince]

Seems that in every dating advice article I see we get the recommendation to be nice to the waiter and tip them with a smile.

What's your view on kindness? Should we demonstrate kindness, its opposite or somewhere in between?

Is this another example of society wanting to control an individuals instinctual self?

 

[In2theGame]

The "nice" thing is confusing to guys because everyone has their own definition of what that means. I'm a nice guy but In a direct way. I'll give two examples:

•One guy is very nice to everyone but in a people pleasing way. In the case with Women, He tries too hard to please.
•The other guy is also very nice to everyone but in a direct and confident way. He greets others with a directness handshake and says "Hey how are you, I'm xxxx". In the case with Women, He's nice but not a pushover. His tone is stern and direct with authority but he's still considered "nice"

 

[Mike32ct]

I don’t think there is a downside to being kind. Just don’t let people take advantage of you.

 

[redskinsfan92]

Don't give as good tip if you didn't get good service. If others are nice be nice. Don't be nice to the guy giving you the middle finger

 

[Mike32ct]

If the server is ignoring us or genuinely giving us bad service, yes I will reduce the tip.

But most of the time, I will cut the server some slack because a lot of F-ups with the order happen in the kitchen, beyond the server’s control. Sometimes the kitchen is slow or messes up the order, and server is apologetic. I don’t want to be a dik to a server for something that is clearly not their fault.

 

[Tilex]

Tip #1: Don't take your dates to restaurants
This is how Gold Diggers are born.

Bars are only acceptable for drinks