Killing Negative Thoughts

[somebody]

I have this tip on killing your negative thoughts..I got this from an mPUA..tie a rubber band to your wrist..every time you have a negative thought..snap it against your arm..it will teach you gradually that YOU ARE A MAN..i have a lot of negative thinking i'm trying to erase now and my arm is full of whips and reddish in color..but its worth it..you'll be afraid of thinking negative then..and the result is great for me.

THIS IS JUST MY OPINION. ANY ATTEMPTS AND INJURY SUFFERED ARE TO BE RESPONSIBLE BY THE INDIVIDUAL.

 

[longlifexs]

Emo style?

Just kidding

I agree it's good to remove the negative thoughts from your head and learn not to have them anymore or at least as little as possible, but I think there are, well, less drastical methods to do that. For me it's enough to say to myself something like "damn, stop thinking about it man, NOW!" or forcing myself to smile and the mood gets better in a flash and the negative stuff goes away. In the last weeks, by practising this I learned to get rid of any negative thoughts so fast after they appeared, that now they don't even show up. Which is probably a point you will reach too through this method..but it'll be kinda more painful (yet maybe also more effective for some people)

But yeah, if this helps you, why not

 

[somebody]

yeah it works for me..i think different people have different views on this..mine works..hahhaha i am gaming this HB 8 online and if i dont whip my arms with this rubber bands the anxiety and wussiness and negative thinking will flood in. Now i can talk to her normally and i dont see her that beautiful anyway now..just some thoughts

 

[longlifexs]

Cool Keep it up and good luck!

 

[02hero]

Yeah this is an interesting idea, I've known people who try this to get rid of there addictions, I used to work with a lady who would do this when she fancied a cigarette, don't PING it so hard though man, you'll never wear a t-shirt again

 

[somebody]

hey 02hero ..i realised this rubber band thing works only after you know the truth about your negative thoughts..and have things that occupy your mind..Brian Tracy said in the Psychology of Achievement that the mind can either occupy a positive thought or a negative thought..its like a vaccuum..

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Great tip -- I'm going to be getting out that rubber band and trying it myself.

 

[Nygard]

Hehehehe, I tried it, but the rubber bands snapped not long after

 

[noirsake]

Wow. This tip came at the perfect time for me! Thanks a bunch! I can put my knife away! haha jk jk

 

[somebody]

Hehehehe, I tried it, but the rubber bands snapped not long after

hahhaha Nygard i thought i had the most negative thoughts..
this also works when you're feeling nervous while gaming a HB

 

[realsmoothie]

I did this a long time ago when I had a really serious case of oneitis. Any time I thought of her, I snapped the rubber band.

Seemed to work.

 

[Nygard]

Nah, it's a joke. I actually did it differently: I charged a big capacitor with a good voltage and when I had negative thoughts discharged it with myself. Worked like a charm

 

[Guybrush]

Nah, it's a joke. I actually did it differently: I charged a big capacitor with a good voltage and when I had negative thoughts discharged it with myself. Worked like a charm

It's not the GOOD VOLTAGE that matters when you charge the capacitor.

It's the capacity (of the capacitor) that defines the amount of charge you could store in it, so even if you charge 1,000 Volts to a 10 uF capacitor and discharg it on your fingertip, you wouldn't feel it.

Just to put things into perspective you know...

 

[Nygard]

Hey, no need to get all worked up. I know well that it's the capacitance that matters. I work with electronics.Come to think about it, i'd be dead from electric shock if I didnt know how they work.
Gosh, i'm sorry for ommiting useless information

 

[ItsOnNow]

All I have is negative thoughts, even to the point of where I ask what is it worth living for?

 

[somebody]

All I have is negative thoughts, even to the point of where I ask what is it worth living for?

life is great. I'm still trying to understand this. Go out and make some friends(good friends that will help you improve that is). Have a purpose in life. You can get all the advice you need on this forum.

yeah the rubber band works! hahahaha

 

[ItsOnNow]

No. You don't understand. I feel like I have no purpose. I have very few freinds, and have always felt left out/alone and behind, and feel like I am/will be severely judged on that. Sometimes I wonder, do I even want to be with/around people ? I have a way of seeing people of followers, caring about pointless things that I don't care about. I know, you can get all the advice you want, but until you take action. Alot if relates to my own inexperience. As in I have never been in an ltr, not that many partners, and feel not up to par with others. Whethere it's more of a lack of confidence, or certain confidence, or the whole dominance power thing. And it's not like I am extremely picky. I have no qualms dating an average looking girl. Ok. Call it afc or whatever, but I just want a nice girl who I am compatible with.

 

[decades]

when you have a neg thought just shift your focus to your breath and your body "breathing".

 

[somebody]

No. You don't understand. I feel like I have no purpose. I have very few freinds, and have always felt left out/alone and behind, and feel like I am/will be severely judged on that. Sometimes I wonder, do I even want to be with/around people ? I have a way of seeing people of followers, caring about pointless things that I don't care about. I know, you can get all the advice you want, but until you take action. Alot if relates to my own inexperience. As in I have never been in an ltr, not that many partners, and feel not up to par with others. Whethere it's more of a lack of confidence, or certain confidence, or the whole dominance power thing. And it's not like I am extremely picky. I have no qualms dating an average looking girl. Ok. Call it afc or whatever, but I just want a nice girl who I am compatible with.

you know what? i'm having the same problem like you right now. seriously i know it sucks. i have this problem, i keep peeing in my pants, no its not a lot,just little drops occasionally when i'm feeling nervous or encountering something new, and i've talked to a close friend who is a very good PUA himself,someone you look up to, and he told me its a common thing to have for teenagers, but still i'm worrying about it when i know i'm not suppose to worry.

I always feel down when i go back home, i dont mix well with my family because of past experiences that i'm trying to accept,i have trouble socializing in real life because i worry too much about what other people think of me because i feel i lack something that other people may have like leadership and confidence when i know i should just relax and focus on my goals, there is nothing to worry about really.

You know you can really wish for anything you want in life. It happened to me, thank god. And you are no different.

Last year, i really suck at getting women,never had an ltr,unsociable in school, never really liked joining sociable events(i'm not that bad looking), was a mummy's boy,never dreamed of getting a hot women although i know deep down inside that i am capable to get all this one day and keep asking myself how am i going to get a girlfriend.

Then god stepped in and grant me my wish.

I called this guy from my school days(a year after i graduated high school), he was the popular guy and was always the fun one in school who knows no fear, he played rugby and was the president of a photography club.

Then i saw his myspace profile and he was THE MAN, i mean he had women all around him,simply a high-value guy, and he is a MPUA. I didnt know about PUA that time so i just called him, I wanted to ask some tips, as i wasnt feeling happy going out with this girl, i had this insecurity and worried to much about it until she just want to go back home. I was really depressed about it and called him. Then he said, "come this saturday". I was in.

Since then,9 months on, my life had changed, me and my MPUA are best friends, we'd talk about a lot of things and it is the BEST thing that happened to me, he brought me to the real world that i never experienced before, and i am always happy with him. I realised that its not a HB that makes you happy, its your true friends.You see true friends are hard to find, but once you have found it, you wont find anyone like that.

I went out with the girl i wasnt feeling happy before and i showed her that I AM THE PRIZE NOW. Yeah i'm still far from being a natural now and still need a lot of guidance. Its just that i can feel the improvement now and its not stopping there. Yes i admit i am a slow learner. I know what i want and i know how to get it. I know the day is coming.

I'm thankful i've found PUA. You should be thankful you found this site. Go out and make some friends, join a lair or follow other PUA's in your area sarging. Keep searching for what you want until you get it. At first it may seem hard, you wont get it your way, sooner or later the guys you are going to befriend are going to be your comrades and may be your best friend.

Just stick to your goals. Make friends. Be nice to other people and they will think of you the same way too. You're not the only one. They will understand.

"No one is going to change you unless you change yourself"

Peace.

 

[ItsOnNow]

What you're saying is true, and I have been going through with this for a long time, but it often times seems unreachable. Some of it may have to do with negative social experiences in the past, esp school, and being out of touch with things for such a long time. I haven't made enough effort I feel. This is all my own fault. Plus, an incident that happened a year ago that really fcckked my head up.

I mean, you read about all these guys changing there lives, and mine feels unchanged. It's like I have been magically waiting for it to happen. I found this site years ago, and am still in this rut. It may be this constant feel of emptyness. I mean, they say the key is to just to be energetic, happy, cool, smile, get into the circle, etc. Like this article, http://www.sosuave.com/quick2/tip567.htm , and every other article only seems to remind me of what I am not doing. I guess I just don't have that thing that draws chicks in, like a cool job, or hobby. Maybe I am boring. Maybe I am too regular for all the high maintenance chicks out there. I mean, it's like I have the want for it, but not the action. It may be I am too used to sitting around. What concerns me is the whole attraction thing. Am I attractive? Is there someone out there for me? What if you're not "****y/funny enough" Jerkish,mysterious,confident. It seems almost every other guy, or at least the ones who learned, learned it more quicker than me. I do have a learning disability, so perhaps I just don't pick up on certain things like everyone else does.