Hi guys,
I'm 28 years old and met a great 21 year old girl back in January so we've been together for around 7 months. Things went very well and I found her living with me by month 5 (yes I know, in retrospect, probably not the best idea)
Up until 2 weeks ago everything was perfect - good sex, nothing but positive, fun time together and overall a very happy and healthy relationship.
Again, as I said, up until 2 weeks ago when we got into one of our only pretty big fights. Here is the problem - I handled it like a fool. After the fight, she was acting distant so I confronted her, asking her whats wrong and pushing to talk about it (mistake #1) This, of course, made her more distant which I in turn, kept pushing, making her more distant until things go worse and worse. I guess things had gone so well for more or less our entire relationship that I let my guard down and started acting needy - which of course, is woman repellent.
Finally, 3 days ago, she tells me shes sick of talking about our situation and to just let things go at whatever pace until things go back to normal. I immediately snapped out of it and started acting aloof and doubley distant which seemed to work.
Until last night where I made a major **** up. I came out a bit tipsy from a friends and she was sleeping with the TV on. When I came in the room to turn it off, she woke up and we started talking. She at this point, had retracted from the previously better attitude she had the last couple days and I fumbled hard. I told her it was probably best she stayed at her dads house the rest of the week so we can get some space as we probably haven't been separated more than a day since we met. Yes I know she was probably testing me and yes I messed that up hard.
She instantly woke up and drove to her dads. I woke up and she calls me telling me she's going to get "all her stuff", came by an hour later but only grabbed enough stuff for a couple days at most, leaving all her nicer stuff/clothes/shoes in the closet - which hints to me that she doesn't want this to be the end
I mean I wanted the space and definitely think it would have probably worked very positively had I kept my cool and mentioned it in the right circumstances. However, I did it from a place of resentment and as a reaction to her behavior which is definitely not a good thing.
My question is do you think I'll be able to recover from this? I know we moved fast but Ive never in my life spent so much time with someone and had such a consistent amount of good treatment and good times so I'd like to think there is something to this.
Obviously I'm going to honor the space and not contact her. Just want opinions on what I should do moving forward and the best course of action or recovery. I know the game but had a huge moment of weakness the last couple of weeks and I'm hoping it's not too late.
Appreciate any input
I'm 28 years old and met a great 21 year old girl back in January so we've been together for around 7 months. Things went very well and I found her living with me by month 5 (yes I know, in retrospect, probably not the best idea)
Up until 2 weeks ago everything was perfect - good sex, nothing but positive, fun time together and overall a very happy and healthy relationship.
Again, as I said, up until 2 weeks ago when we got into one of our only pretty big fights. Here is the problem - I handled it like a fool. After the fight, she was acting distant so I confronted her, asking her whats wrong and pushing to talk about it (mistake #1) This, of course, made her more distant which I in turn, kept pushing, making her more distant until things go worse and worse. I guess things had gone so well for more or less our entire relationship that I let my guard down and started acting needy - which of course, is woman repellent.
Finally, 3 days ago, she tells me shes sick of talking about our situation and to just let things go at whatever pace until things go back to normal. I immediately snapped out of it and started acting aloof and doubley distant which seemed to work.
Until last night where I made a major **** up. I came out a bit tipsy from a friends and she was sleeping with the TV on. When I came in the room to turn it off, she woke up and we started talking. She at this point, had retracted from the previously better attitude she had the last couple days and I fumbled hard. I told her it was probably best she stayed at her dads house the rest of the week so we can get some space as we probably haven't been separated more than a day since we met. Yes I know she was probably testing me and yes I messed that up hard.
She instantly woke up and drove to her dads. I woke up and she calls me telling me she's going to get "all her stuff", came by an hour later but only grabbed enough stuff for a couple days at most, leaving all her nicer stuff/clothes/shoes in the closet - which hints to me that she doesn't want this to be the end
I mean I wanted the space and definitely think it would have probably worked very positively had I kept my cool and mentioned it in the right circumstances. However, I did it from a place of resentment and as a reaction to her behavior which is definitely not a good thing.
My question is do you think I'll be able to recover from this? I know we moved fast but Ive never in my life spent so much time with someone and had such a consistent amount of good treatment and good times so I'd like to think there is something to this.
Obviously I'm going to honor the space and not contact her. Just want opinions on what I should do moving forward and the best course of action or recovery. I know the game but had a huge moment of weakness the last couple of weeks and I'm hoping it's not too late.
Appreciate any input
