Marvin Gaye
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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's what I was thinking. The guy is a pretty good looking dude, and he has a very articulate voice. Just that alone would give him a step up.Zarky said:that guy is good looking enough that he has a major advantage over 95% of other dudes. Good points he makes though.
Yeah, that's the basic tl;dr for the above posters lol. I've read his site though (http://www.campuscharmer.com) and it's worth a look, basic info, nothing groundbreaking--what I like is how it's presented though. Following on what BJ said he doesn't take himself too seriously.Audiophile said:That's what I was thinking. The guy is a pretty good looking dude, and he has a very articulate voice. Just that alone would give him a step up.
His message is pretty clear though, go out and actually apply the things you read.
NorwegianDJ said:Great stuff.
What if you do them all at the same time? What will happen if you go do the hardest, most awkward things, when you're afraid of approaching chicks?
Two Step said:Norweigan,
Well you can do that, and it wont hurt. Personally id recommend increasing the hardness of the situations at a logical pace. This way you can pick up alot of good experiences that fuel you to get better and give you confidence
Just think if you were playing rock band on the hardest level (notes flying everywhere) and have never played it before. After about 10 trys youd be like fuck this this
But if you start on the easier levels and master those, youll be having fun while learning alot. Just be sure to keep challenging yourself once you get something down