Marvin Gaye
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That's what I was thinking. The guy is a pretty good looking dude, and he has a very articulate voice. Just that alone would give him a step up.Zarky said:that guy is good looking enough that he has a major advantage over 95% of other dudes. Good points he makes though.
Yeah, that's the basic tl;dr for the above posters lol. I've read his site though (http://www.campuscharmer.com) and it's worth a look, basic info, nothing groundbreaking--what I like is how it's presented though. Following on what BJ said he doesn't take himself too seriously.Audiophile said:That's what I was thinking. The guy is a pretty good looking dude, and he has a very articulate voice. Just that alone would give him a step up.
His message is pretty clear though, go out and actually apply the things you read.
NorwegianDJ said:Great stuff.
What if you do them all at the same time? What will happen if you go do the hardest, most awkward things, when you're afraid of approaching chicks?
Two Step said:Norweigan,
Well you can do that, and it wont hurt. Personally id recommend increasing the hardness of the situations at a logical pace. This way you can pick up alot of good experiences that fuel you to get better and give you confidence
Just think if you were playing rock band on the hardest level (notes flying everywhere) and have never played it before. After about 10 trys youd be like fuck this this
But if you start on the easier levels and master those, youll be having fun while learning alot. Just be sure to keep challenging yourself once you get something down