You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
?DonGorgon said:
The truth is such and through its own nature, i only served as a communication transport device for it... You can deny it even resist it. But in the end.. You shall live it..L777 said:?
Did you watch the video?
The guy is short(ish) and very average looking. He just has good style and great game.
Stop posting in bold as if you're posting some deep and meaningful ultimate truth that you have come up with.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Well it is much easier to talk about typeface characteristics than "Proof that looks dont matter" right!?antidonjuan said:
Whatever. Its just you come across as arrogant because you state your opinion as a cast iron fact. What about the girls that f.uck guys solely on their personality? (Believe it or not they do exist - you just have to go to the right places - hint: not Greek Town), what about 26 year olds? What about girls that like bodybuilders regardless of their face....or even the PUAs who's game makes up for their appearance?DonGorgon said:
Also notice in the interview he said that the part that he was glad that they edited was when he had to recover after being a **** and giving a neg. Afterward he said that it wasn't his style. Too many guys depend on negging because they're lacking in other areas. Negging isn't necessary in a normal pickup.Prodigy746 said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well, I'm sure he has game and maybe he's average to you, but he has style and it makes him fairly decent looking.ChrizZ said:
http://www.thesuperficial.com/images/2006/06/james-blunt-petra-nemcova-boujis-02.jpgJitterbug said:
I agree, but there are a lot of times negging can make your life a hell of a lot easier. I only really resort to negging in situations where I have low social proof.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Holy Canada!!! Is that Steve Nash?ChrizZ said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.