A woman who I have been seeing for 5 months gave me the key to her house on a recent date.She told me that I could come over any time I wanted day or night.She lives about 100 miles from my house.I do not want to seem needy and go over every night for sex .We see each other every weekend alternating whose house we stay at,so she gave me the key for the weekdays.My question for you DJ's is how often would you go over?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Key to her place
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
100 miles is a nice distance, 1.5 hrs most cases. Everyday would be kinda tough unless you only worked 8 hrs a day. I think you get out there on the weekends. Then once in a blue moon during the week to taker her up on her offer to give you the key.
Roober
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Wow! 100 miles is pretty far. You have it, but you don't have to use it. Just pop in every now and then. Make sure she continues to come out your way though. This could be a covert action of "hey, he has a key to my place, so maybe I won't have to go out to his place any more..."
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Yes, let her invest in the drive time as well. I would still pop up out there from time to time.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah I am retired so I can go up whenever I want, she works though.I am thinking once a week.
dustmuffin
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100 miles is an ldr. Why are you driving so far? Can't you find local women?
It's not an LDR
Its probably not an LDR in my book as u have the time and u r getting it wet. It is possible she s angling for more investment hoping u would reciprocate with a key to your place.
However it is an ideal plate spinning setup if I r of that mind.
However it is an ideal plate spinning setup if I r of that mind.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I think you have a plate or two closer. It seems like with the key she wants to be invested. Let her also make trips to you. User her place as a home away from home on some entire weekends and hit it all weekend. Pop up there once in a blue moon during the week since you have a key just to appease any thoughts of interlopers hitting it while you are away.
There have been married people that live that far apart.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.