A woman who I have been seeing for 5 months gave me the key to her house on a recent date.She told me that I could come over any time I wanted day or night.She lives about 100 miles from my house.I do not want to seem needy and go over every night for sex .We see each other every weekend alternating whose house we stay at,so she gave me the key for the weekdays.My question for you DJ's is how often would you go over?
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
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Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Key to her place
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mrgoodstuff
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100 miles is a nice distance, 1.5 hrs most cases. Everyday would be kinda tough unless you only worked 8 hrs a day. I think you get out there on the weekends. Then once in a blue moon during the week to taker her up on her offer to give you the key.
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Wow! 100 miles is pretty far. You have it, but you don't have to use it. Just pop in every now and then. Make sure she continues to come out your way though. This could be a covert action of "hey, he has a key to my place, so maybe I won't have to go out to his place any more..."
mrgoodstuff
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Yes, let her invest in the drive time as well. I would still pop up out there from time to time.
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100 miles is an ldr. Why are you driving so far? Can't you find local women?
It's not an LDR
Its probably not an LDR in my book as u have the time and u r getting it wet. It is possible she s angling for more investment hoping u would reciprocate with a key to your place.
However it is an ideal plate spinning setup if I r of that mind.
However it is an ideal plate spinning setup if I r of that mind.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I think you have a plate or two closer. It seems like with the key she wants to be invested. Let her also make trips to you. User her place as a home away from home on some entire weekends and hit it all weekend. Pop up there once in a blue moon during the week since you have a key just to appease any thoughts of interlopers hitting it while you are away.
There have been married people that live that far apart.
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