playerone
Senior Don Juan
Does doing kegels affect your bladder in any way? Like make the bladder stronger, or weaker? Etc.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Kegel exercise
- Thread starter Lexington
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
Yeah, and we're going to end up holding our pee for extended periods of time, and the bladder will get weaker due to that in the long run.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
Okay i get it.
You guys need to you make up your mind, because I don't use the muscle to control my butt to stop going pee. When I think PC muscle I am thinking of the muscle that makes your penis go up and down. Is this correct or is this something else?librito said:jesus,,,, it is the same muscle as the one that controls your bvtt...
you are doing it right..... read more by doing a google search...
It's a long muscle, it can control both. Eventually, you should be able to start contracting different parts of it (butt part and genital part.)Unl1m1t3d said:You guys need to you make up your mind, because I don't use the muscle to control my butt to stop going pee. When I think PC muscle I am thinking of the muscle that makes your penis go up and down. Is this correct or is this something else?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
I remember sometime back i was experiencing these little urine leaks.
But it's weird, many of the guys on the forum who are new to kegel exercises, they say they can't flex their PC muscle for more than a few seconds, and it has no strength, etc. For me, i tried the first time and i can hold for like 30 seconds straight or even more, while watching a UFC fight. Haha.
Lol. Good link btw.
But it's weird, many of the guys on the forum who are new to kegel exercises, they say they can't flex their PC muscle for more than a few seconds, and it has no strength, etc. For me, i tried the first time and i can hold for like 30 seconds straight or even more, while watching a UFC fight. Haha.
Lol. Good link btw.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
In addition it also controls your ball's movement which is key when it comes to multi-orgasm and preventing ejaculation (while still maintaining that awesome feeling everyone jacks off for, so you basically jack off without cvmming).Captain said:It's a long muscle, it can control both. Eventually, you should be able to start contracting different parts of it (butt part and genital part.)
playerone
Senior Don Juan
what the f*ck. serious?War Against Betaism said:In addition it also controls your ball's movement which is key when it comes to multi-orgasm and preventing ejaculation (while still maintaining that awesome feeling everyone jacks off for, so you basically jack off without cvmming).
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
yep.ItsTheAttitude said:what the f*ck. serious?
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
I've been studying this book for a month so far and this article really got at me, this is from the book The Multi Orgasmic Man:
In a front-page story on December 3, 1992, the New York Times reported startling scientific research that seems to confirm the ancient Taoist insight about the toll that sperm production takes on a man's body. "These results are the last thing I had expected when I started doing the experiment," said Wayne Van Voorhies of the University of Arizona. "They were so startling that I did the work over four times to make sure I got it right. They basically say a lot of our preconceived notions [about male sexuality] just do not hold."
Dr. Van Voorhies was studying simple but revealing worms called nematodes. What, you may ask, do worms have to do with your sexuality'. Well, these nematodes are not just your everyday, garden-variety worms. "The genes and biochemical processes nematodes use," explains Dr. Philip Anderson of the University of Wisconsin, "are the same as those that humans and other mammals use." In scientific studies, nematodes are frequently used in place of human subjects.
Dr. Van Voorhies tested three kinds of male worms. The first group of worms was allowed to mate at will, which required frequent sperm production. On average, these Don Juan worms lived only 8.1 days. (Nematodes, in general, don’t live very long.) The second group of worms was not allowed to mate at all. These, shall we say, monastic worms lived an average of 11.1 days. But even more startling, the third group, the multi-orgasmic worms that did not constantly have to produce sperm but were allowed to mate at will, lived close to 14 days – over 50 percent longer than the worms that needed to continually produce sperm!
The Times concluded: "The new work suggests that ceaseless sperm production takes its toll on a male, perhaps requiring the use of complex enzymes or biochemical processes that have harmful metabolic byproducts." The Times goes so far as to suggest that "the difference in life span between men and women just may be linked to sperm production. Women on average live about six years longer than men." There are other theories to explain the disparity in life expectancy between men and women, including differences in lifestyle and in hormones. Whether or not the production of sperm actually shortens your life, it certainly saps your strength.
Over two thousand years ago – long before experiments on nematodes – the Taoists described the importance of not ejaculating in the Discourse on the Highes Tao Under Heaven: "If a man has intercourse without spilling his seed, his vital essence is strengthened. If he does this twice, his hearing and vision are made clear. If three times, all his physical illness will disappear. The fourth time he will begin to feel inner peace. The fifth time his blood will circulate powerfully. The sixth time his genitals will gain new prowess. By the seventh his thighs and buttocks will become firm. The eighth time his body will radiate good health. The ninth time his life span will be increased." Ancient texts exaggerate to make their point, and it is unlikely that the above benefits occur in this exact order or at the exact specified time. However, it is clear that Taoists have long known the importance of conserving semen.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Just figured I'd give an update. I've been practicing the kegel exercises at a nice level pace and I'm able to hold them longer now (3-4 seconds when I'm hard). Also I had sex with my girl the other night and lasted a lot longer so I think it was mainly nerves and getting used to sex again.
fertileTurtle
Master Don Juan
Shouldn't you just be doing some holy moly magic trick to remedy this?Jesus said:my problem with kegels is I can never tell if I'm working my PC muscle or just clenching my a$$hole shut.
coolf1r3
Don Juan
This thread is making me ROFL.