Keeping yourself updated without falling for trends

[jhonny9546]

I’d like to share my perspective on how social media, especially when it comes to dealing with women, can often have a negative impact. Social media can be useful if you use it as a personal “showcase”, a way to present an image of yourself.
Maybe you’re a rapper and you share your music, or a personal trainer showing your workouts.


That said, and speaking from personal experience, we should not use social media about or with women.
Women often use social media mainly to express their emotional states or whatever they’re feeling in the moment.
Talking to a woman about her “relationship problems” on social media doesn’t really teach you anything, it’s just an echo of her actions, not a real experience.
If you think you can attract a woman online during one of those emotional moments, yes, you could, there are plenty of opportunities. But keep in mind that if she uses social media that way with you, she’s likely to do the same later on, just with another man. Knowing that in advance can save you a lot of time.


The women who are grounded and serious are out there, but they tend to use social media very little, which is exactly why they’re harder to find. So, to all the men who are pursuing real goals in life: social media should be kept in perspective. Use it like your personal portfolio, a collection of your photos and experiences, nothing more.


I don’t like posts, I don’t comment, I don’t watch stories, and I don’t scroll through other people’s stuff. None of that.
But I still want to be part of the modern, digital world we live in, and to keep my own “showcase” up to date, just to stay in step with the times I personally developed a one time a year post with 5 of my favourite pictures of the year.

This can save you so much guys!
Don't believe you need a "x" count of followers to become a man of status.
You need "confidence" and "real" stuff going on in your life.
That's the only hook and healthy thing you can do daily to your life

 

[Solomon]

I don’t like posts, I don’t comment, I don’t watch stories, and I don’t scroll through other people’s stuff. None of that.
But I still want to be part of the modern, digital world we live in, and to keep my own “showcase” up to date, just to stay in step with the times I personally developed a one time a year post with 5 of my favourite pictures of the year.

I stopped using IG for a year between 2022-2023 and I noticed instantly how much better I felt. Social media will have you consciously or subconsciously compare yourself to your peers/friends etc, whether you are aware of it or not. One thing that feels freeing is not posting or checking other peoples post. The truth is 90% of the people that I follow and vice versa we ain't even friends like that. My real friends know what I have been dealing with the last few years and we hung out reguarly. They don't pull out their phones etc

Even today I seldom use IG and FB and don't even have them on my phone so I gotta download it to use it or go on the computer, which I seldom do.

 

[The Duke]

I’d like to share my perspective on how social media, especially when it comes to dealing with women, can often have a negative impact. Social media can be useful if you use it as a personal “showcase”, a way to present an image of yourself.
Maybe you’re a rapper and you share your music, or a personal trainer showing your workouts.

The women who are grounded and serious are out there, but they tend to use social media very little, which is exactly why they’re harder to find. So, to all the men who are pursuing real goals in life: social media should be kept in perspective. Use it like your personal portfolio, a collection of your photos and experiences, nothing more.

I don’t like posts, I don’t comment, I don’t watch stories, and I don’t scroll through other people’s stuff. None of that.
But I still want to be part of the modern, digital world we live in, and to keep my own “showcase” up to date, just to stay in step with the times I personally developed a one time a year post with 5 of my favourite pictures of the year.

Why not take it one step further and not even post pics? If they are your friends you can email/text the pics right? And if you really want to stop following trends, just don't use it!

I hear more and more people that have quit using social media all together or not as much.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Personally I just use it to post art, my poetry, my sketches to lift some people's spirits. I use facebook a lot for my support groups like Veteran groups, writer's workshops and spirituality. Social media is how I keep track of the world around me and what's happening with old friends and family's lives, it's literally my newspaper in the morning so to speak.

 

[jhonny9546]

hear more and more people that have quit using social media all together or not as much

I was thinking about changing careers and to do that, having a social media presence would allow me to do that better