"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Keeping your options open.

MountainSlide

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Dating a girl that I like. Things are progressing forward and I will likely soon be in a relationship with her. We haven’t had a conversation about exclusivity yet but we spend quite a bit of time together and there are definitely feelings there. Now I’ve still been making dates with other women, and I have one tonight with another girl that I’ve had sex with a few times and was fun. Would this be considered appropriate conduct in a pre-exclusive relationship or is it better to just leave the other girls alone and stick with the one I’ll be
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dating a girl that I like. Things are progressing forward and I will likely soon be in a relationship with her. We haven’t had a conversation about exclusivity yet but we spend quite a bit of time together and there are definitely feelings there. Now I’ve still been making dates with other women, and I have one tonight with another girl that I’ve had sex with a few times and was fun. Would this be considered appropriate conduct in a pre-exclusive relationship or is it better to just leave the other girls alone and stick with the one I’ll be
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I learned the hard way in my early to mid 20's to keep my options wide open. I know what it's like to feel in love and have that special connection but that's a risk you will be taking for the future. You do what you feel you really want to do but just be aware that if she leaves abruptly in the future, it will for sure f*ck you up mentally and emotionally.

Knowing how us guys are, you will most likely get into a LTR with her and thats fine but keep this in mind, Stay in shape, If you ever feel like something feels "off" about her or her actions, don't hesitate to call her out on it and always be prepared to leave if she gets out of line.
 

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Dating a girl that I like. Things are progressing forward and I will likely soon be in a relationship with her. We haven’t had a conversation about exclusivity yet but we spend quite a bit of time together and there are definitely feelings there. Now I’ve still been making dates with other women, and I have one tonight with another girl that I’ve had sex with a few times and was fun. Would this be considered appropriate conduct in a pre-exclusive relationship or is it better to just leave the other girls alone and stick with the one I’ll be
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Keep your options open until you have the exclusive talk which, in my opinion, she should bring up. Remember, you want her chasing you for the relationship, not you chasing her.
 
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