andy1989 said:
This is because you are still in the "doing phase." Your "game" should ultimately just become an expression of who you are. This will happen over time.
dude I'm 30 and I've been back and forth between doing my playa thing and 1-2 yr exclusive LTR's since i was 18. and I have no problem attracting girls, I don't know where you got that from. if I wasn't attracting them, the possibility of cheating wouldn't even be in my reality
in the meantime I've constantly strived for self-improvement and have had a ton of life experiences and challenges that have made me grow in all areas of my life. Seriuosly, it's my saving grace that I push myself to grow - otherwise I'd still be living out of my car like I did in 2003. I've also read Deida, Sam Keen, and most of the spiritual sht out there that guys hold as canon nowadays. I highly recommend both those authors btw
If there was a way for me to be both a skilled pimp and honest boyfriend, I would have figured it out by now. Both take skillsets that have mutually exclusive elements. And both are skills so if you don't practice, you get rusty. That's how skills work. You don't f-close for awhile, you lose the ability to do it naturally.
Bottomline, everything you do has an associated lifestyle. If you wanna be a pimp, live that life. If you wanna be in a traditional commited relationship that has depth beyond the bedroom, then choose that. But it's give or take. I got no comment on swinger relationships or polyamory btw because I have no experience with those
The most enlightened thing that I can do is accept the truth - that my current relationship is a tradeoff. And yet, I don't care about my skills going rusty because I know what I'm capable of and if I need to go back into pimp mode again I can do it without worrying. That's the difference between me and you. You're worried about losing your skillset to the point you wanna believe you can have everything. Meanwhile I'm willing to let it go because that's how life works