"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Keeping Your Cool When You're Into a Girl

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PhatE1vis

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Looking for some tips and advice for maintaining my cool in the face of wild attraction.

I've been seeing a girl for a little while now - we started off as friends and evolved into something more. We have great dates, great sex, genuine fun - we click. We also both see other people.

I think I may be more into her than she's into me, and she's also admitted to putting up barriers so she doesn't fall too hard. I want to keep her interest going, and also gain back some of the power that I feel like I'm losing in the dynamic with her because I'm getting so into it.

I'm not interested in games, but I think I need to put a little distance between us to keep the chase going. Couple of questions:

-how much distance is enough and not too much? Right now we're chatting daily.

-when you're into someone, how do you find the discipline to execute on that distance? I've got a lot going on in my life (other girls, friends, work, hobbies), but my thoughts keep going back to her (yes, I have a crush).

Thanks, guys.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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PhatE1vis said:
I think I may be more into her than she's into me, and she's also admitted to putting up barriers so she doesn't fall too hard.
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Whatever. If she's going to fall hard she's going to fall hard. She has no control over it.



I'm not interested in games, but I think I need to put a little distance between us to keep the chase going.
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Rephrased: "I'm not interested in games but I do want to play a game."


So back off and play it cool. You know she has interest. Now dangle her along and make sure she's coming to you. Don't call her all the time, don't see her all the time... wait and see if she asks you to do stuff.
 
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Yeah, you're right. It's game playing, mrRuckus. But I kind of feel like I need the distance for myself even more than I do for any of the game-playing outcomes. Just to re-establish my own emotional control. thanks for calling me on it though.

Georgey - ever disappear for a week? how did it work out?
 
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