Keeping sane between dates

[spiegel549]

Brothers, I enjoy the brutal blunt advice from you guys so please don't hold back.

This is going to sound like a *****y beta thing to say but here it goes lol...

I have 2 plates spinning at the moment. 1 recently which was a great recovery, she flaked twice and then turned around by coming to my house and banging my brains out.

Its thursday night, ALL my boys are busy. NOTHING to ****ing do. I can't help but to just THINK about these 2 broads, whats my next move, whats gonna happen next time I see them.

Its ****ing ridiculous that I think so much about these broads when they are not around. I mean I am playing it perfectly right now with the "NC" and "being busy" but really im bored as ****.

Any tips on getting over this? How can I just erase them from my mind until its time to contact them for another date?

 

[Itsjustme]

You gotta get a life bro.. That's it.

 

[J Roc]

Any tips on getting over this? How can I just erase them from my mind until its time to contact them for another date?

go to the gym and release some of that pent up sexual energy that you have.

 

[Bukkake]

go to the gym and release some of that pent up sexual energy that you have.

Yes, go hang out with 20 other sweaty dudes and release that pent up sexual energy.:crazy:

 

[J Roc]

Yes, go hang out with 20 other sweaty dudes and release that pent up sexual energy.:crazy:

:box:

 

[Sofomore]

It comes down to you having hobbies and being comfortable alone. I personally love music so I spend most of my free time either making music or finding new music.

Just get some hobbies if you find yourself bored. You're in your mid 20's, get out and explore.

 

[thevilittletroll]

go find another plate to spin

 

[VladPatton]

Call Of Duty: Black Ops II

 

[spiegel549]

Right on brothers. I hear ya all. I actually bought Xbox today due to VladPatton haven't played video games in 10 years but man I love this **** lol....brings back old memories. It seems to be good when theres no plates to spin or plates to meet.

Thanks for the responses guys.

 

[muscleman]

Here are some points for you in no particular order:

1) As mentioned, you need to get comfortable being by yourself. How often and for how long is a personality thing. Some people are ok being alone for a long time, others need to be social ALL the time. It depends on where you fall on the introversion-extraversion continuum.

2) Get some productive hobbies. Working out is HUGE. Better health, more stamina, better sleep, look better, fvck better, just more attractive all around. Find something else productive that you like. Can be reading, art, music, nerdy computer stuff, doesn't matter. Just something that helps you in some way in the future (even if it's just mental dexterity).

3) Get a (second?) job. Can be something completely unrelated to your field of study. You'll meet more people, have something to do, and be making $$. You're over 21 so consider bartending. Perfect night time activity.

4) Meet more girls. You need to cultivate an abundance mentality, but really the only way to do this (at least that I've found) isn't some mental exercise but actually having multiple successes with hot chicks, so when you are 'alone' you're not freaking out because you know more chicks are around the corner and it's just a matter of time.

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I was like you at some point (and at a similar age). It was near the time when I first started dating multiple girls at the same time - as in I was seeing several of them regularly. I'd get bored if I wasn't hanging out with one. Right now, I have 0 plates. I'm not seeing any girl on a regular basis, though I turn down invitations when I feel I have something better to do, which only drives them crazier. It's a nice reversal. Plus I like chasing new tail because I'm a caveman, so there's that. The lesson is this - you're likely to reach a point where enough previous successes and ease of future success (confidence) frees you to not think about women all that much, which ironically makes you all the more attractive.