Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Keeping options open in LTR

Fireballs

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How do you guys keep your options open whilst in an LTR without disrespecting your relationship?

There's a small amount of ONEITIS creeping in and apart from a HB5 I could bang anytime I have no other options.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Colossus

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If your SMV is high enough you shouldn't need to actively "keep your options open". Options will simply be present if you are socially connected.
 

MOTU

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Yea, stay socially active. Don't stop doing the things you were doing before the LTR. For example, I met my current main plate, who I am sort of exclusive with, at an open mic night where I played guitar. So now that I have a chick, it would be easy to stop going to play... But I go anyway. Sometimes she comes, sometimes she doesn't. But it keeps me in circulation, so to speak.

It's ok if she is your only source of pvssy, but she shouldn't be your only social circle.
 

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Fireballs said:
How do you guys keep your options open whilst in an LTR without disrespecting your relationship?

There's a small amount of ONEITIS creeping in and apart from a HB5 I could bang anytime I have no other options.
The better question is why are you looking to keep your options open? From your current mental position, you have 1 foot in & 1 foot out mentally & emotionally. To me, when I notice that I'm doing that, I should not be in a LTR. If I do that, then I'm settling. Meaning, I'm not ready to be in a LTR, but she wants to, so I say "Sure, why not?"

If I want to keep my options open, then I tell her "I don't want a LTR now" & suffer the consequences. Or I can lie to her & tell her you're the only one and go bang other women. As long as you're clear about why you're thinking this way, you're fine. If you're just settling, because that's what she wants/comfortable/etc., then that's not living life...IMO.
 
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