I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
You can tell her. "We don't need to talk every day to show our feelings." Say, your busy doing things and ect.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Keeping LTR IL
- Thread starter I.A.F.Y.B.
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've been with my girl for 18 months, and she has done everything on the list you created:
-said she loved me first
-offered to buy my plane ticket to meet HER family in Ohio
-buys me stuff all the time
-texts me good night, etc.
-drives north every weekend (4 hours) to visit me and stay at my house
I know she's deep into me, but I can never trust a woman 100%. I want to know how you keep the IL high in a semi-long distance relationship (ie 4-5 hours away)? I won't be the far away for long, as I'm moving back to my original college city next month so get ready for Spring Semester (1 hour away from her).
Basically for now though I just got my phone and talking to her until I give her orgasms on the weekend.
-said she loved me first
-offered to buy my plane ticket to meet HER family in Ohio
-buys me stuff all the time
-texts me good night, etc.
-drives north every weekend (4 hours) to visit me and stay at my house
I know she's deep into me, but I can never trust a woman 100%. I want to know how you keep the IL high in a semi-long distance relationship (ie 4-5 hours away)? I won't be the far away for long, as I'm moving back to my original college city next month so get ready for Spring Semester (1 hour away from her).
Basically for now though I just got my phone and talking to her until I give her orgasms on the weekend.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Well, looks like you posted this in october so, I don't know if things have changed.itishe said:I've been with my girl for 18 months, and she has done everything on the list you created:
-said she loved me first
-offered to buy my plane ticket to meet HER family in Ohio
-buys me stuff all the time
-texts me good night, etc.
-drives north every weekend (4 hours) to visit me and stay at my house
I know she's deep into me, but I can never trust a woman 100%. I want to know how you keep the IL high in a semi-long distance relationship (ie 4-5 hours away)? I won't be the far away for long, as I'm moving back to my original college city next month so get ready for Spring Semester (1 hour away from her).
Basically for now though I just got my phone and talking to her until I give her orgasms on the weekend.
Has this always been a long distance relationship?
TheDoctor
Don Juan
BUMP
Great Post I.A.F.Y.B. I just wanted to bring this to the top of the pile so others can look at it. I've been reading a lot about LTRs of late. I know this thread has helped me tremendously. I have oneitis and have gone AFC on my girl but am battling hard to get out of the trenches.
Tons of great advice / tips here to keep IL high with your girl.
My case: we see each other/ talk to each other too much. We get sick of each other and we haven't really been putting too much effort into making each other happy. We've been just running through the motions. Things have gotten stale on every level.
Need to get things back on track. Any advice?
Great Post I.A.F.Y.B. I just wanted to bring this to the top of the pile so others can look at it. I've been reading a lot about LTRs of late. I know this thread has helped me tremendously. I have oneitis and have gone AFC on my girl but am battling hard to get out of the trenches.
Tons of great advice / tips here to keep IL high with your girl.
My case: we see each other/ talk to each other too much. We get sick of each other and we haven't really been putting too much effort into making each other happy. We've been just running through the motions. Things have gotten stale on every level.
Need to get things back on track. Any advice?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This and the other topic are pretty cool but I don't understand how a lot of these things apply to a LTR... "She always calls you to hang out" "Helps you do stuff / Do stuff for you" "Is affectionate around you and other people" etc... Those are good signs for any relationship, but aren't they kind of hard to gauge in a LTR because you aren't physically together much? I guess maybe I'm a bit confused because those seem appropriate for a normal relationship.