"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Keeping interest level up for long term benefits

Nameless

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It's been a while but its good to be back.

I seem to have a talent for attracting women and 'doing the right thing' (i.e. using my DJ skills and mindset) to increase a woman's attraction over a short period of time.

Now nothing is wrong with that and my game is down pretty tight in that aspect.

I have a question though which goes against what I'm used to and would be intersted in hearing your opinions.

Before I explain keep in mind that this is not oneitis and I am making sure i have other prospects while working on this girl.

She is a cautious and a sincerely religious type (not the issue here) who is showing definite signs of interest but has made it clear (in general conversations with groups of people) that she does not get involved with any guy in any way until she has known them for at least 6 months - give or take a little.

I am open to the possibility of a steady relationship with her and want to work her over this period to keep this possibility open.

My question is:

How do I keep the interest level up over a long period such as 6 months before I can properly use my DJ skills like I otherwise would? (properly as in not how I act but being able to take it to the next level relationship-wise and physically).

How would my normal DJ skills for short term encounters differ when trying to apply them long term?

Look forward to hearing your opinions and comments.

Nameless
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Nameless

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I know that there are still some genuine DJs who can give decent replies, opinions and advice on this board (at least I hope so), so I'll bump one last time.

A penny for your thoughts.
 

00Kevin

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Originally posted by Nameless
It's been a while but its good to be back.

I seem to have a talent for attracting women and 'doing the right thing' (i.e. using my DJ skills and mindset) to increase a woman's attraction over a short period of time.

Now nothing is wrong with that and my game is down pretty tight in that aspect.

I have a question though which goes against what I'm used to and would be intersted in hearing your opinions.

Before I explain keep in mind that this is not oneitis and I am making sure i have other prospects while working on this girl.

She is a cautious and a sincerely religious type (not the issue here) who is showing definite signs of interest but has made it clear (in general conversations with groups of people) that she does not get involved with any guy in any way until she has known them for at least 6 months - give or take a little.

I am open to the possibility of a steady relationship with her and want to work her over this period to keep this possibility open.

My question is:

How do I keep the interest level up over a long period such as 6 months before I can properly use my DJ skills like I otherwise would? (properly as in not how I act but being able to take it to the next level relationship-wise and physically).

How would my normal DJ skills for short term encounters differ when trying to apply them long term?

Look forward to hearing your opinions and comments.

Nameless


Let me help you out

1. There is no such thing as "The relationship". It is a female concept only.

2. Therefore, there is no such thing as "The next level"

3. Therefore, there is no need to worry about keeping a womans interest level high. Let her worry about your interest level.

4. The only "Next Level" is a "Next"

5. If her interest level drops then you "Next"


You don't have time to worry about a womans interest level. You are busy man with many goals that you need to acomplish. If a woman wants to be part of your success then she had best keep you interested or your eyes might just wander over to some other hot girls nice fine ass.
 

splinterkb

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The trick to a successful long relationship is keeping parts of yourself a mystery. Keep showing her that theres more to you than she thought, but only bits at a time.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Nameless

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And good replies they were.

Thank you.

00Kevin - although I disagree with you on the concept of a relationship your other points are spot on.

splinterkb - so true, I also think this, but it is always good to have it reaffirmed.


I'll take these points into consideration and also continue doing the standard things e.g. being the catch, not always available, overt qualifying and not taking her word on it but see how she responds with actions when I do these things.

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