"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Keeping interest between dates when away

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Had a good first date last night after recently becoming single after a 2 year LTR and have 2 other plates I'm spinning. Anyway, she sent me a text today saying she had fun etc.. I replied but I didn't mention a 2nd date because these days I work away for 2 weeks at a time so I won't be able to see her again until then and didn't want to set up a date 2 weeks out.. At the end of the date last night she said she wanted to see me again to which I said sounds good.

I usually have no problems with this as I would have just set up a second date when she contacted me and had minimal contact until the date but with my work circumstances I'm unsure how to proceed as I know girls have alot of options and they can forget the chemistry and fun they had with someone after a few days let alone 2 weeks..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't think you need to concern yourself with that, her interest level already seems high.
Don't tell her you're away for work, the mystery as to why you haven't initiated a second date is only going to intrigue her, raising the interest level more.
Setup up the second date a week out from arriving back.
 

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I was wondering about this too. Latina I'm dating is away for two weeks visiting family. I have texted a bit. I am trying to keep it at a minimum.

I think I will ask her out again when she gets into town. If she accepts great. If not that's fine too....will move along.
 

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One key is that after the date, you go MIA. She should be the one to write to thank you. Use absence at times. The other key is to make sure the dates you have are very memorable. Also, arranging a long distance date where you both watch the same movie at the same time, and maybe both send out for pizza, can work wonders for the romance.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The level of beta insecurity here is painful to read.

Why would you EVER worry about how much times goes by between dates or communication with a woman? It doesn't matter. Men need to grasp the fact that desperate faggots are constantly up women's asses giving them attention. Going long periods without talking to a woman is not a "turn off".. its just an ego assault. Any bullsh!t excuse you come up with will work.

If you damage the ego of a woman who isn't that attracted to you.. she will hate you for it and often stop talking to you. But if she is attracted to you.. then you can get away with just about anything. So stop walking on eggshells and analyzing every little thing you do and say. Its not masculine.

Also.. when you're spinning plates like you should be.. it doesn't really matter if a woman drops off.

Remember men.. if you can't get away with being a d!ck.. then a woman isn't that into you.
 

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The level of beta insecurity here is painful to read.

Why would you EVER worry about how much times goes by between dates or communication with a woman? It doesn't matter. Men need to grasp the fact that desperate faggots are constantly up women's asses giving them attention. Going long periods without talking to a woman is not a "turn off".. its just an ego assault. Any bullsh!t excuse you come up with will work.

If you damage the ego of a woman who isn't that attracted to you.. she will hate you for it and often stop talking to you. But if she is attracted to you.. then you can get away with just about anything. So stop walking on eggshells and analyzing every little thing you do and say. Its not masculine.

Also.. when you're spinning plates like you should be.. it doesn't really matter if a woman drops off.

Remember men.. if you can't get away with being a d!ck.. then a woman isn't that into you.
****ing this. I'm discovering caveman game is my game, I just do what I want to do, and I find no resistance. Because I DON'T expect resistance, because she sees that I find no resistance with my friends, because she sees I've yet to ask for anything. From moment one I led, and the only question I ask is "Do you want your coffee with regular milk or with soy milk?".
 

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****ing this. I'm discovering caveman game is my game, I just do what I want to do, and I find no resistance. Because I DON'T expect resistance, because she sees that I find no resistance with my friends, because she sees I've yet to ask for anything. From moment one I led, and the only question I ask is "Do you want your coffee with regular milk or with soy milk?".
Lol, if I ever asked someone that and they said soy milk I'd literally get up and walk out. Can't date an idiot.
 

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Vegan girls are dirty though.
Anyone who uses ANY unfermented soy product is simply looking for health issues. Soy is safe for humans to consume only in fermented form.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Anyone who uses ANY unfermented soy product is simply looking for health issues. Soy is safe for humans to consume only in fermented form.
I know, but, they dirty as hell. And I enjoy destructing their belief system. Brining patriarchy back one girl at a time bro. Think global, act local.
Edit: one of my best bros drinks a lot of soy milk...he even has mantits. And I try to talk him about it, but there's no way he'll believe me lol. I just wanted to vent.
 
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Do what you want and stop worrying about what she thinks. You want to see her, call her up and try to make a date, if she won't go out with you ... just move onto the next one... if at some point you feel like you want to see her, ring her up and try to make a date.

I know dating coaches will tell you at that point to just toss the number and forget about her... but not me. If I feel like trying again I will... I don't have any rules, but I have really good instincts which comes with experience, I'll quit with a woman if I think I don't really have a chance... I can usually tell. Sometimes my gut tells me not to bother with a number I got, and usually when I go against my gut, I just end up talking to voice mail as my calls are screened.

Abandon your ego and trust your gut.... what is your GUT telling you what is going on, and don't let your fvcking ego have an opinion... you'll figure out the right answer.
 

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So stop walking on eggshells and analyzing every little thing you do and say. Its not masculine.
Yup, if more men could only truly understood this rudimentary concept.

Outside of physicality, the irony is the very fact that a man feels the need to analyze his own behavior in relation to a woman is the very premise as to why the woman may have rejected him to begin with. A man who is not grounded in his own masculinity can be sniffed out and disqualified instantaneously.

Herein is the relevance, essence, and power of truly not giving a fvck. Not giving a fvck is falsely understood, socially contrived and -shamed as to being irresponsible and infantile. Quite the opposite is true. Not giving a fvck is truly being responsible to your OWN will and desires, and not stymied by the will of others.
 
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Anyone who uses ANY unfermented soy product is simply looking for health issues. Soy is safe for humans to consume only in fermented form.
Yes, unfermented soy contains Phytoestrogens - estrogen mimicking compounds that cause abnormal breast growth (man boobs in males, breast cancer in females). Thus, avoid Tofu and Soy milk and choose Miso and Tempeh.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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