"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Keeping high IL over college break?

Optimus Prime

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So there's this chick that went home to Cali on break and I'm currently playing the "email" game with her.

I know eventually she's going to be back here in CT when next semester starts (mid Jan), so I don't want to rush anything...

...but at the same time, I want to keep her interested and escalate the rapport. Any tips/suggestions?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Kaptain

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Keep yourself busy.

Hanging out for an email is noway to spend your break. And when you do receive an email from her you wil be a better frame of mind to continue the "game".
 

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Yeah, keep yourself busy and don't focus too heavily on the email thing. Sure, email her or chat to her - but everything in moderation.

And when writing, always have a suggestive style. Never be exact and always make her think there's more to the picture. TEll her you did something, but avoid the details, for example. Y'know...

:) Just my tip.
 

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I'm in the same situation you're in right now. I started dating a girl a few weeks before break started and everything is going great so far. We've spoken on the phone every other night so far, and she's been the one who's made almost all of the phone calls, I've only called her once. We've even thrown around the idea of her coming to visit me in my home town during break, so that should be fun. I'm honestly suprised by how high this girl's IL is.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Captain Popular

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i like to cut things short and have them wonder.

lol here, use this if you need an email idea

at the end of a typical email:
"Hey, i could really use your advise im having a female problem and i would appreshiate your help."

Blahh blahh blahh
"Well what is the problem with this female?"



"Well, you see my mom wants me to go to church on sunday but i dont wanna go, what should i do?"
jk though but blahh blahh blahh

women love funny so just make sure your funny in every email that way she doesnt get bored of you
get her to giggle through the computer and she'll rememeber you.
 

gbpackers

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im in this same exact situation... where things are just starting up.. but now shes gone for break to another country.... any more tips on keeping the interest level?
 
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to hell with that, get a number you can call her on, dont use email as your main source of contact.

I usually only use it if its a very last resort..
 

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As soon as term ended, you should have wished her a good holiday, told her you will contact her in the new term and then JUST DISSAPEAR.

It does nothing for you to be communicating with her for the sake of communicating with her.

By dissapearing for the WHOLE holiday you create mystery and she will spend her time wondering about what you are up to.

Then when you get back you just call her up and ask for a date.
 
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