You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dude...if she truly had a REAL interest in you (other than just hooking up)...you can rest assure that she wouldn't be hooking up with other people.ManUnited01 said:Is it acceptable to us DJ's if a girl you are dating non-exclusively, dates other men? I'm interested in this girl and she seems to be interested in me, but my friend told me that she went out with this other guy and hooked up with him in the weekend. Should I just forget her and date other women? Or should I still make an effort to get her exclusively? Damn one-itis to hell...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This is the thing...and I'm talking based on what I read in boards such as this and what I see in real life.playboy_supreme said:if your not exclusive then she can do what ever the f**k she wants, be a man and realise this. if you are that interested in her then persue an exclusive relationship. pick up your balls and talk to her. if thats not what she wants then get over it. as for dating other woman while u date her. its about what you want and from what you have written is that you dont want to date other people other wise u would. if you do then do.