Keeping her options open

[ManUnited01]

Is it acceptable to us DJ's if a girl you are dating non-exclusively, dates other men? I'm interested in this girl and she seems to be interested in me, but my friend told me that she went out with this other guy and hooked up with him in the weekend. Should I just forget her and date other women? Or should I still make an effort to get her exclusively? Damn one-itis to hell...

 

[DrMetallica]

damn oneitis to hell indeed... keep trying with her and see what happens, but dont limit yourself to her unless you talk about commitment, which i doubt she wants.

 

[Latinoman]

Is it acceptable to us DJ's if a girl you are dating non-exclusively, dates other men? I'm interested in this girl and she seems to be interested in me, but my friend told me that she went out with this other guy and hooked up with him in the weekend. Should I just forget her and date other women? Or should I still make an effort to get her exclusively? Damn one-itis to hell...

Dude...if she truly had a REAL interest in you (other than just hooking up)...you can rest assure that she wouldn't be hooking up with other people.

One-itis is typical of women that are VERY into a guy.

 

[Big Eee Zee]

i know it shouldnt bother you, but it would bother me.

I just dont want to hook up wiht a girl who just hooked up with someone else. Thats how oral herpes spreads, not to mention a host of other things. STD's are way to serious for me to hook up with a whoore.

 

[Tomatoes]

See other girls as well as her. But still look at exclusivity. Look for other girls too thow. It will help you in every way.

 

[playboy_supreme]

if your not exclusive then she can do what ever the f**k she wants, be a man and realise this. if you are that interested in her then persue an exclusive relationship. pick up your balls and talk to her. if thats not what she wants then get over it. as for dating other woman while u date her. its about what you want and from what you have written is that you dont want to date other people other wise u would. if you do then do.

 

[Latinoman]

if your not exclusive then she can do what ever the f**k she wants, be a man and realise this. if you are that interested in her then persue an exclusive relationship. pick up your balls and talk to her. if thats not what she wants then get over it. as for dating other woman while u date her. its about what you want and from what you have written is that you dont want to date other people other wise u would. if you do then do.

This is the thing...and I'm talking based on what I read in boards such as this and what I see in real life.

Personally...if this woman is attractive or very attractive or if he even cares a tiny bit for her (she might be a nice girl or a girl that might have some qualities that he truly likes)...the best he can do in this particular case (where she hooks up with anyone) is not go out with her. Even if they are not exclusive.

The thing is that most men tend to be territorial. That's natural. And if he had those "feelings"...he will eventually feel jealousy or territorial.

If she was one of those women that we care NOTHING about...then my advice would be different.

By the way, when a person creates a thread like this is because he cares (at least a tiny bit) for that woman...or at worst, is very attracted to her.