"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Keeping a plate casual when he wants more?

Infern0

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Keeping a plate casual when she wants more?

I have a plate right now, she's a bit clingy and wants to be more but i'm happy with the current arrangement.

Anyway what's the drill on this, once a week with her is all good for me, how can i keep her in that spot?
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SmooveMooves

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You can't. When you have an arrangement like that it'll go on for as long as you make she lets it. After aome time passes she'll begin to crave more. However, once she understands that you don't want the same, she'll eventually move on to someone who'll give her what she wants.

Nothing you can really do except, continuing being you.
 

Infern0

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SmooveMooves said:
You can't. When you have an arrangement like that it'll go on for as long as you make she lets it. After aome time passes she'll begin to crave more. However, once she understands that you don't want the same, she'll eventually move on to someone who'll give her what she wants.

Nothing you can really do except, continuing being you.
I dunno about that mate this one is a bit of a stage 5 clinger.

When i first text her i didn't reply for like 10 minutes and she text me like 4 times like "bored of me already" etc.

She's a cluster b candidate imo, although shes on best behaviour because i'm unattatched.

Want to keep for sex but will probably have to burn the bridge pretty soon
 

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Really depends on a girl. My plate that I spun for over a year and eventually moved out 250 miles away did bring up something like that. Point is, she had no other options and my value was way above hers. Still best seckses I have ever had.

My rebuttal to the " what are we " line was .

" I just came out of a long relationship and yadayada " which was true.
You can word it better but you catch my drift.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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blind_one said:
Point is, she had no other options and my value was way above hers.
That is the case most of the times. There are other factors as well:
  • She is worried about her future. If you don't give her what she wants she will start fancying about greener pastures, where she will have more power and control.(If it's been going for a long time)
  • She is tired of being a cheap slut, giving it up without your comittment.(If it's been going for a long time)
  • Testing. She is testing you to see whether you are desperate or not. "I'll be here for you whenever you need me honey, we are exclusive, just keep giving me what you have been doing" . Guys committing early are desperate, and unattractive.
 

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Face palm. Infern0 why do you not feel worthy of a mentally healthy woman?
 

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You are trying to keep a plate casual when "he" wants more??

Hmm...are you switch hitting or something?? Lmao
 

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Why not just tell her that

'Your happy with what you have at the moment and dont want to disturb it as your focusing on other things that have your priorities.'

Might buy you some more time with her until she starts complaining again, but it looks you might have to commit or have her walk.
 
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