"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Keepin a friend, hickies, mom, and daughter

BadBoyCoolMan

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 19, 2007
Messages
18
Reaction score
0
I recently moved to a new city and got a new job. One of my coworkers is an older lady (about 40). I am 24. This coworker and I became friends and she began telling me about her daughter who is in college. Daughter is 20. She gave her daughter's my myspace link and her daughter added me as a friend. We chatted for a while and then she came over to my apartment for help on college algebra. Last week I took her out to one of my female friends' birthday party. The chick is still a virgin and her looks are about an 8. What I like the most about her is her simplicity and personality.

After talking to her in person on these 2 occassions, I can tell that she ONLY SEES ME AS A FRIEND. She has a bf and I think likes him. My concern is messing **** up with her. I do want to xxxx her of course so how can I avoid messing up. I know that if I make a move, I am going to look like an idiot. Her mom did not tell me directly that she only sees me as a friend but I got the point. I want to keep her as a friend because of her personality and such but also because I can always have some good lookin chik to go to movies, club, parties, etc with. But at the same time, I do not want to be another one of her "homegirls." How can I balance this situation. Any advice would be appreciated. One more piece of info: her mom and I are real cool and her mom knows that I be ****ing around since she sees the hickies on my neck when I go to work.


Thank you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Rashad

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 31, 2003
Messages
107
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Location
Williamsport, PA
Her mom would not have intro'd you guys had she not thought highly of you and trusted you.

Moving forward, you are in the friendzone. Sex buddies typically do NOT go to other girls' birthday parties together. Maybe make yourself scarce and hard to get if possible. Try to use kino if you do get together and in your mind you should be thinking "I may give her a chance. Let's see if she is worthy of my time." NOT how do i get your panties on my floor.
 

Moofahsa

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 2, 2007
Messages
203
Reaction score
3
Location
Deep South
Don't do anything.

You'll screw up **** at your job and cause a ton of drama. If you want to use it as a job reference later just play the part of the "nice guy" friend
 

Mr. Wise

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 19, 2007
Messages
122
Reaction score
3
Make her your pivot! HB8's are perfect for helping you get other chicks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

PlaysToWin

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 27, 2007
Messages
125
Reaction score
4
Location
London
Stop thinking with your c0ck.
 
Top