"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Keep your marriage boring"

blueguy

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Yet another article written by some nutcase AFC who advises that your existence should be made boring to accommodate the stability of the marriage institution. Why am I even surprised when I come across stuff like this anymore? Are there really that many people out there who can't think even a couple of centimeters outside of the matrix? Wow...

http://www.neillneill.com/22/keep-your-marriage-boring/
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think it makes absolute good sense. Remember he is talking about how to make a marriage work.
 

Night Owl

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persistent exaction said:
I think it makes absolute good sense. Remember he is talking about how to make a marriage work.
Despite the picture, I think the good doctor is in fact a woman (or his wife forced him to write it) Why else write some dribble like that?
 

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By "boring" the author is suggesting to avoid "exciting" situations like cheating, abuse, etc. He does not condone "action" dates or hobbies, nor does he suggest to avoid the strategies a DJ uses to keep his wife on edge a little bit. He doesn't really go there.

The reason why this article probably set you off is because of the use of words like "boring" and "predictable" but he doesn't use them in the same sense that they're used on these forums.
 

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I remember an incredibly hilarious video of comedy by Chris Rock. His opening line is: "Yes, I'm married and bored out of my f'ing mind. But it's a beautiful thing. All good relationships are boring and the only exciting ones are bad ones. You never know what's going to happen tomorrow. You never know when you're going to walk through the door and say 'Hey, you gave me crabs!'"

Here's the clip:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AS13dTbAdcI
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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