"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"Keep your marriage boring"

blueguy

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Yet another article written by some nutcase AFC who advises that your existence should be made boring to accommodate the stability of the marriage institution. Why am I even surprised when I come across stuff like this anymore? Are there really that many people out there who can't think even a couple of centimeters outside of the matrix? Wow...

http://www.neillneill.com/22/keep-your-marriage-boring/
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think it makes absolute good sense. Remember he is talking about how to make a marriage work.
 

Night Owl

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persistent exaction said:
I think it makes absolute good sense. Remember he is talking about how to make a marriage work.
Despite the picture, I think the good doctor is in fact a woman (or his wife forced him to write it) Why else write some dribble like that?
 

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By "boring" the author is suggesting to avoid "exciting" situations like cheating, abuse, etc. He does not condone "action" dates or hobbies, nor does he suggest to avoid the strategies a DJ uses to keep his wife on edge a little bit. He doesn't really go there.

The reason why this article probably set you off is because of the use of words like "boring" and "predictable" but he doesn't use them in the same sense that they're used on these forums.
 

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I remember an incredibly hilarious video of comedy by Chris Rock. His opening line is: "Yes, I'm married and bored out of my f'ing mind. But it's a beautiful thing. All good relationships are boring and the only exciting ones are bad ones. You never know what's going to happen tomorrow. You never know when you're going to walk through the door and say 'Hey, you gave me crabs!'"

Here's the clip:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AS13dTbAdcI
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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