"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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keep in touch with ex-gf?

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Do you guys keep in touch with your ex-girlfriends? I have no intention of getting back together with them. But you can never have too many friends, right? Well I haven't talked with my ex since we broke up a year ago. I'd like to say it was a mutual break up, but we all know those don't exist. It became a long distance relationship when I left for college. I did most of the calling while we dated. One day I didn't feel like calling her anymore so I just stopped calling her. She's still on my AIM and I was thinking about saying hello.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good question.

My ex dumped me and we hadn't talked for 6-7 months. Then she's IMed me a few times.

Suffice to say, it's confusing me.

I wonder if it's a renewed interest because she misses me, or what.

In your case, a year has passed. If you think no confusion will result, I don't see a problem with it. Just don't expect anything.
 
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Not really. My last GF contacted me out of the blue (after not talking to her for 4 months) after she was in an accident to tell me what happened. But I haven't talked to her since then, that was 2 months ago. Kinda strange...

If you must contact her, just say hi, how's it going? That's all. If she misses you then after that you'll know. Most of the time it's best just to think of it as catching up with an old friend and nothing more.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Ex is always trouble. I would stay away, if you can't seriously be with her why even spend all your energy on bringing up any old feeling between the both of you. STAY AWAY, its for the better.
 
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Just as someone said above, I would do it but would look at it as nothing more than catching up with an old friend. Trying to push for anything else can be annoying.
 
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HOLA BACK...

Sure drop a line say hello....Defintaley right by having lots of friends, just make sure it stays that way.....You obviously broke up because of a lack of interest in one another....Its only human curiosity too wanna see how the other person is doing, what's new in their lives and sometimes to feed some subtle emotions that we have bottled for a while for that person...I made a big mistake once by becoming friends with an ex of mine who still had some feelings for me.....I noticed that during that period of being friends with her i was kind of distracted and was not going out and meeting new and interesting women......
 
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