"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Keep going or be patient and see what happens?

SingledadinKY

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I recently completely changed the frame on a chick I've been wanting to nail, who I was away from for a few weeks. She had previously friended me because I didn't move fast enough, and was just too damn nice.
I've basically just said to hell with it and became very, very suggestive when communicating with her and I'm wondering if I can go too far and have this thing backfire. She is playing along with my innuendos but it's only been a couple of days.
Should I just not care and keep pushing it or play it cool and let her make the next move? She asked me this morning "What have you done with my friend?" hahaha
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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pdx1138

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Push that boundary....it's really fun & risky at the same time.

You have something to gain and nothing to lose, you were friends before.

I pushed one hard last night...almost thought: "uh oh what have I done" but it was a false alarm and took me up a significant notch.

You could increase it by then going cold and making her contact you. (I'm sure you already knew that)
the old 1 forward, 2 back.
 

I'm in the Mood

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One thing I am starting to learn is not to give in to your negative emotions. I got pissed off at a girl that I like (oneitis) last night for boring me with her boring texts during a convo I initiated. I questioned why I even like this girl. We used to have great conversations and flirt, but now it's cooled way down and she's got a new bf (probably why). I got mad and deleted all of the messages between us.

The lesson: today I saw her and exchanged a casual "hey, how are you?" It was as if NOTHING had happened. I'm not saying I'm in a good situation with this specific girl, but it's certainly not a negative relationship between us. Anyway, the lesson is that short term emotions don't mean sh!t. Your negative emotions are set by your standards...so if you have trouble with getting angry or depressed easily, raise your standards for yourself!!
 

st_99

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I'm in the Mood said:
We used to have great conversations and flirt, but now it's cooled way down and she's got a new bf (probably why).
LOL, ya think?

But seriously though, you're right in that if you can just learn how to keep your emotions in check, you're on the right path. The guy that that can really learn to diffuse his emotions and therefore play the game without being blinded or under a cloud of anger, jealousy, fear, etc.. is probably ahead of 90% of the guys out there.

But its hard to do and takes work.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SingledadinKY

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UPDATE:

Talked nasty to her all week, she did the whole push/pull thing on me; I didn't get anything accomplished.

Last night I went out with another girl, f*cked her, and then told the first one about it. She was pissed but tried to play it off. She sent me a text "don't talk suggestively to me anymore! I hope you get what you want in life, and we can always be friends, but nothing else!"
So I lied and told her "I didn't really f*ck her...I just wanted to get your attention and see how you reacted." After she texted "you know what? I hate you...lol" I knew I was in good shape. After a few back and forth texts she said "why don't you come down here and talk." I went down to her place and she answered the door with "Hey ****head" and started walking away. I followed her, grabbed her by the hair, slammed her up against the wall and put my tongue down her throat.
I did a few more things, but before I could actually get an f close she said "wait, wait! stop, no, not yet, ugh" and I just played it cool; I mean, I don't want to get an assault charge. She said she needed a couple of days to process things and I said "cool. I have to charge a processing fee" and then tongued her down again before leaving.
 

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she likes the drama, she doesn't like you. just play along and have some fun
 
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