"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Keep going or be patient and see what happens?

SingledadinKY

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I recently completely changed the frame on a chick I've been wanting to nail, who I was away from for a few weeks. She had previously friended me because I didn't move fast enough, and was just too damn nice.
I've basically just said to hell with it and became very, very suggestive when communicating with her and I'm wondering if I can go too far and have this thing backfire. She is playing along with my innuendos but it's only been a couple of days.
Should I just not care and keep pushing it or play it cool and let her make the next move? She asked me this morning "What have you done with my friend?" hahaha
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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pdx1138

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Push that boundary....it's really fun & risky at the same time.

You have something to gain and nothing to lose, you were friends before.

I pushed one hard last night...almost thought: "uh oh what have I done" but it was a false alarm and took me up a significant notch.

You could increase it by then going cold and making her contact you. (I'm sure you already knew that)
the old 1 forward, 2 back.
 

I'm in the Mood

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One thing I am starting to learn is not to give in to your negative emotions. I got pissed off at a girl that I like (oneitis) last night for boring me with her boring texts during a convo I initiated. I questioned why I even like this girl. We used to have great conversations and flirt, but now it's cooled way down and she's got a new bf (probably why). I got mad and deleted all of the messages between us.

The lesson: today I saw her and exchanged a casual "hey, how are you?" It was as if NOTHING had happened. I'm not saying I'm in a good situation with this specific girl, but it's certainly not a negative relationship between us. Anyway, the lesson is that short term emotions don't mean sh!t. Your negative emotions are set by your standards...so if you have trouble with getting angry or depressed easily, raise your standards for yourself!!
 

st_99

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I'm in the Mood said:
We used to have great conversations and flirt, but now it's cooled way down and she's got a new bf (probably why).
LOL, ya think?

But seriously though, you're right in that if you can just learn how to keep your emotions in check, you're on the right path. The guy that that can really learn to diffuse his emotions and therefore play the game without being blinded or under a cloud of anger, jealousy, fear, etc.. is probably ahead of 90% of the guys out there.

But its hard to do and takes work.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SingledadinKY

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UPDATE:

Talked nasty to her all week, she did the whole push/pull thing on me; I didn't get anything accomplished.

Last night I went out with another girl, f*cked her, and then told the first one about it. She was pissed but tried to play it off. She sent me a text "don't talk suggestively to me anymore! I hope you get what you want in life, and we can always be friends, but nothing else!"
So I lied and told her "I didn't really f*ck her...I just wanted to get your attention and see how you reacted." After she texted "you know what? I hate you...lol" I knew I was in good shape. After a few back and forth texts she said "why don't you come down here and talk." I went down to her place and she answered the door with "Hey ****head" and started walking away. I followed her, grabbed her by the hair, slammed her up against the wall and put my tongue down her throat.
I did a few more things, but before I could actually get an f close she said "wait, wait! stop, no, not yet, ugh" and I just played it cool; I mean, I don't want to get an assault charge. She said she needed a couple of days to process things and I said "cool. I have to charge a processing fee" and then tongued her down again before leaving.
 

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she likes the drama, she doesn't like you. just play along and have some fun
 
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