"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Keep an emergency set of clothes and toiletry items in your car at all times

DCC

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This isn't about style, substance, picking up women, or anything like that. This is a tip that can translate well into any area of your life. Be prepared.

Keep an emergency set of clothes and a travel toiletry kit in your car at all times. Maybe even two sets of clothing...one for work and one set of nice clothes that you'd feel comfortable wearing out when DJing.

Why is this important / what taught me this?

Saturday I was out entirely too late and ended up sleeping through my alarm Sunday morning. The problem with that? I woke up late, and I had to be at church at 7:45AM to play drums. My clock said 7:43 the first time I looked at it. I basically threw on a polo shirt and flew out of my house, hadn't shaved in a couple of days, and honestly could have almost passed as a homeless guy.

No big deal, it's just church. Well, I had a family member's birthday party, an HB8's grad party, and a date with a new plate afterwards.

I could look like I did around my family without fear, and in church, but no way could I pull it off when I'm trying to DJ. Especially a first impression around a new girl.

Luckily, my dad taught me one thing in life worth remembering...be prepared for anything.

Went to family's b-day party, disappeared into a bathroom for 10 minutes, and when I came out, and the looks on my relative's faces were hilarious. It was like Clark Kent walked into the bathroom, and walked out as Superman.

Also, I can remember a few times in my life where preparedness has saved me because I ended up crashing at a woman's house nowhere near where I lived when I had to work the next morning. Preparedness pays.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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joverby

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I do this pretty much every morning when I crash at my girls house, true stuff. I will have a polo or two in my car. I'm supposed to be dressed a little nicer than jeans and a polo but no one says ****.

And if all else fails we have "casual day" stickers where I could just come straight into work and slap one of those on.(But again I'm prepared and save at least one)

Also I"ll probably have some gel in my hair still after crashing at my girls so when I get into work I'll just re-gel it. Kind of nasty I know but I shower later anyway so w/e.
 

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joverby said:
I do this pretty much every morning when I crash at my girls house, true stuff. I will have a polo or two in my car. I'm supposed to be dressed a little nicer than jeans and a polo but no one says ****.

And if all else fails we have "casual day" stickers where I could just come straight into work and slap one of those on.(But again I'm prepared and save at least one)

Also I"ll probably have some gel in my hair still after crashing at my girls so when I get into work I'll just re-gel it. Kind of nasty I know but I shower later anyway so w/e.
The only times I've ever worn gel in my hair at work were 'those' times. It was usually pretty obvious where I was :rock:
 

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ha ha, I started doing that last year as well.

you never know when you'll need it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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