"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Keep an emergency set of clothes and toiletry items in your car at all times

DCC

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This isn't about style, substance, picking up women, or anything like that. This is a tip that can translate well into any area of your life. Be prepared.

Keep an emergency set of clothes and a travel toiletry kit in your car at all times. Maybe even two sets of clothing...one for work and one set of nice clothes that you'd feel comfortable wearing out when DJing.

Why is this important / what taught me this?

Saturday I was out entirely too late and ended up sleeping through my alarm Sunday morning. The problem with that? I woke up late, and I had to be at church at 7:45AM to play drums. My clock said 7:43 the first time I looked at it. I basically threw on a polo shirt and flew out of my house, hadn't shaved in a couple of days, and honestly could have almost passed as a homeless guy.

No big deal, it's just church. Well, I had a family member's birthday party, an HB8's grad party, and a date with a new plate afterwards.

I could look like I did around my family without fear, and in church, but no way could I pull it off when I'm trying to DJ. Especially a first impression around a new girl.

Luckily, my dad taught me one thing in life worth remembering...be prepared for anything.

Went to family's b-day party, disappeared into a bathroom for 10 minutes, and when I came out, and the looks on my relative's faces were hilarious. It was like Clark Kent walked into the bathroom, and walked out as Superman.

Also, I can remember a few times in my life where preparedness has saved me because I ended up crashing at a woman's house nowhere near where I lived when I had to work the next morning. Preparedness pays.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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joverby

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I do this pretty much every morning when I crash at my girls house, true stuff. I will have a polo or two in my car. I'm supposed to be dressed a little nicer than jeans and a polo but no one says ****.

And if all else fails we have "casual day" stickers where I could just come straight into work and slap one of those on.(But again I'm prepared and save at least one)

Also I"ll probably have some gel in my hair still after crashing at my girls so when I get into work I'll just re-gel it. Kind of nasty I know but I shower later anyway so w/e.
 

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joverby said:
I do this pretty much every morning when I crash at my girls house, true stuff. I will have a polo or two in my car. I'm supposed to be dressed a little nicer than jeans and a polo but no one says ****.

And if all else fails we have "casual day" stickers where I could just come straight into work and slap one of those on.(But again I'm prepared and save at least one)

Also I"ll probably have some gel in my hair still after crashing at my girls so when I get into work I'll just re-gel it. Kind of nasty I know but I shower later anyway so w/e.
The only times I've ever worn gel in my hair at work were 'those' times. It was usually pretty obvious where I was :rock:
 

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ha ha, I started doing that last year as well.

you never know when you'll need it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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