Think of a time when a woman showed no sign of interest or somehow disrespected you. Remember how lousy you felt and how badly it shook your confidence? Furthermore, notice how badly you feel when you reflect on it. Now remember a time when you picked up strong signs of interest, when women paid you compliments and notice your confidence rise.
I’d guess that most of us have a habit of generalising. So if you experience one or two failures, it’s very easy to lose sight of your successes, label yourself a failure and believe it to the point where you act it. So why not use this habit to your advantage, generalise your successes and lose sight of your failures instead?
Whenever you pick up a compliment, indications of interest from women or even just positive eye contact, make sure you record it! Write about it, write about as many of the past signs of interest and as many past compliments you can remember. Write about meeting ex-girlfriends too (though don’t record the break ups, mistakes, doubts or ANY negativity). What you should end up with is a list or journal that serves to remind you how great you are and how many women have shown you interest.
It’s easy to disregard anything positive, when it’s followed by a negative, but having all these in one place will help give your confidence a boost and will help you to generalise yourself in a positive way.
It’s a very simple idea, but one which I’ve found works very effectively in putting me in a positive mood, which directly affects confidence, which directly affects success.
I’d guess that most of us have a habit of generalising. So if you experience one or two failures, it’s very easy to lose sight of your successes, label yourself a failure and believe it to the point where you act it. So why not use this habit to your advantage, generalise your successes and lose sight of your failures instead?
Whenever you pick up a compliment, indications of interest from women or even just positive eye contact, make sure you record it! Write about it, write about as many of the past signs of interest and as many past compliments you can remember. Write about meeting ex-girlfriends too (though don’t record the break ups, mistakes, doubts or ANY negativity). What you should end up with is a list or journal that serves to remind you how great you are and how many women have shown you interest.
It’s easy to disregard anything positive, when it’s followed by a negative, but having all these in one place will help give your confidence a boost and will help you to generalise yourself in a positive way.
It’s a very simple idea, but one which I’ve found works very effectively in putting me in a positive mood, which directly affects confidence, which directly affects success.
