"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Keen to improve, what should I be doing?

kayakernick

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*newbie post, have patience please*

I suspect I am not the only person who has read thorugh various pieces of information and opinion on the net and yet done nothing. I think if as well as the information on what to do there was some kind of plan which would improve skills by setting specific tasks people like me would be able to benefi more.
Just a bit about me: 16 years old, fairly slim build but quite sporty and I wouldn't say I'm unattractive in any way, but not a male model either. Go to an all boys school, and how how it is at my school is there is a portion of the year go to all the parties and have a good social life and a portion that do not have a very active social life at all and do not come into regular contact with many girls. Needless to say I come in that category. I'm not completely inexperienced by any means but definately want to improve.

It seems to me to be obvious that reading stuff will do absolutely nothing to benefit me on its own, whereas gaining experiance "in the field" is the only thing which will make a differance.
I guess what I really want is reassurance on what I should be getting out there and doing, and if possible some kind of target to aim for each week. I'm sure I'm not the only person in my position.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Plec07

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Go out and approach. Get your act together and make friends with the more social people from your school and get yourself invited to parties.
 

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It seems to me to be obvious that reading stuff will do absolutely nothing to benefit me on its own, whereas gaining experiance "in the field" is the only thing which will make a differance.
Apparently you already know more than 95% of people on this forum. Just talk to girls. Alot. See what works. And every now and then browse SoSuave.

And if you haven't already, read the bible.
 
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