KarmaSutra said:My day was wonderfull!
I admire everyone here, especially his holiness from up on high, Mr. Tomassi.
Cheers! I agree......................... Karma rocks!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
KarmaSutra said:My day was wonderfull!
I admire everyone here, especially his holiness from up on high, Mr. Tomassi.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Gratz Karma.penkitten said:so let's all step our game up just a bit.
when you post something more insightful and thoughtful, other members notice it and want to hear more. they will begin to up your rep points with every good one you have.
we have always tried to have at least one little thread reminding others to continue to make posts that help others grow, and all awhile congratulating whomever just turned a new page (such as rollo and str8up and joekerr in the past)
this site is honored to have great members, who don't sugar coat life.
I agree with everything you say here. Good post. Rep points to you for that.azanon said:That said, I think one has to keep this sort of thing in perspective. The world is quite literally full of people who have mastered the art of saying things that other people want to hear. The obvious example of this is politicians. Point being, if one wanted to make his/her objective posting something that would get the most positive feedback and green squares, that wouldn't be a very hard thing to do. For instance, I'd write an awesome marriage bashing thread, give everyone in the forum a positive even if they didn't deserve it (because people tend to reciprocate), and never make any criticism even if it was needed.
Personally, my style is to say exactly what I think, with little regard for how it'll be perceived by those less emotionally balanced. Since there is often too much real consequence to make it practical to do that in RL, I find it refreshing that I can do it anonymously online. Given my style, I'd be shocked if i ever get 2 green squares.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Exactly.edger said:Azanon, you also have to factor in that a lot of posters here, when they read a particular post from their "top" poster, they automatically regard that post as "truth". It seems a lot of posters let other posters define reality for them. I think a lot are insecure and not comfortable with themselves, in that they don't trust their own judgement. I think a lot of times too, they'll automatically assume that a particular poster "knows" their sh*t, because "everyone else" thinks that.
why would you want them if they are stupid?Michele said:this rep thing is extremely STUPID.
rep points are stupid.
aaannnyyyyywaaaayyssss...
this post took me a while to write... i better be seeing a rep+ soon.
It's not exactly like they mean much anyways.penkitten said:why would you want them if they are stupid?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Michele said:this rep thing is extremely STUPID.
first:
sensitive d-bags will 'rep-' you many times because they have a great range of people so-called "arguing" with them, letting them spread out their 'rep-' easily.
second:
rep points promotes 'KBJs' to give advice.
third:
any person can talk out of their ass and use the words "brother, sister, insecure, reality, AFC, DJ, alpha and confidence" and make it sound completely SoSuave-like. just because you fancy up your sentences and spit shit out from the "bible"... well, i forgot where i was going with this. but point was, keep the fancy psychobabble to yourself... we don't need any "Dr Phils" pointing out the obvious and getting praised with rep points. (not focusing on one person in particular, and doesn't apply to everyone of course, just a generalization... damn! i guess i'm AFC for saying "no offense".)
sure, it's fine to give advice if you're experienced in that particular thing... but the people who have no idea or clue whatsoever giving advice straight from someone elses words isn't 'rep+' worthy. if THAT useless "advice" was 'rep+' worthy, telling someone "use the search function / read the bible" should get double 'rep+' for leading them straight to the source.
rep points are stupid.
aaannnyyyyywaaaayyssss...
this post took me a while to write... i better be seeing a rep+ soon.
MacAvoy said:I love it when AFC's neg rep you for showing them what idiots they are being. It shows their maturity.
I think newby's are going to listen to the advice that they want to hear.DJDamage said:I don't see a problem with it as long as newbies don't dismiss and ignore the posts of new members or those without rep points.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.