KarmaSutra said:My day was wonderfull!
I admire everyone here, especially his holiness from up on high, Mr. Tomassi.
Cheers! I agree......................... Karma rocks!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
KarmaSutra said:My day was wonderfull!
I admire everyone here, especially his holiness from up on high, Mr. Tomassi.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Gratz Karma.penkitten said:so let's all step our game up just a bit.
when you post something more insightful and thoughtful, other members notice it and want to hear more. they will begin to up your rep points with every good one you have.
we have always tried to have at least one little thread reminding others to continue to make posts that help others grow, and all awhile congratulating whomever just turned a new page (such as rollo and str8up and joekerr in the past)
this site is honored to have great members, who don't sugar coat life.
I agree with everything you say here. Good post. Rep points to you for that.azanon said:That said, I think one has to keep this sort of thing in perspective. The world is quite literally full of people who have mastered the art of saying things that other people want to hear. The obvious example of this is politicians. Point being, if one wanted to make his/her objective posting something that would get the most positive feedback and green squares, that wouldn't be a very hard thing to do. For instance, I'd write an awesome marriage bashing thread, give everyone in the forum a positive even if they didn't deserve it (because people tend to reciprocate), and never make any criticism even if it was needed.
Personally, my style is to say exactly what I think, with little regard for how it'll be perceived by those less emotionally balanced. Since there is often too much real consequence to make it practical to do that in RL, I find it refreshing that I can do it anonymously online. Given my style, I'd be shocked if i ever get 2 green squares.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Exactly.edger said:Azanon, you also have to factor in that a lot of posters here, when they read a particular post from their "top" poster, they automatically regard that post as "truth". It seems a lot of posters let other posters define reality for them. I think a lot are insecure and not comfortable with themselves, in that they don't trust their own judgement. I think a lot of times too, they'll automatically assume that a particular poster "knows" their sh*t, because "everyone else" thinks that.
why would you want them if they are stupid?Michele said:this rep thing is extremely STUPID.
rep points are stupid.
aaannnyyyyywaaaayyssss...
this post took me a while to write... i better be seeing a rep+ soon.
It's not exactly like they mean much anyways.penkitten said:why would you want them if they are stupid?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Michele said:this rep thing is extremely STUPID.
first:
sensitive d-bags will 'rep-' you many times because they have a great range of people so-called "arguing" with them, letting them spread out their 'rep-' easily.
second:
rep points promotes 'KBJs' to give advice.
third:
any person can talk out of their ass and use the words "brother, sister, insecure, reality, AFC, DJ, alpha and confidence" and make it sound completely SoSuave-like. just because you fancy up your sentences and spit shit out from the "bible"... well, i forgot where i was going with this. but point was, keep the fancy psychobabble to yourself... we don't need any "Dr Phils" pointing out the obvious and getting praised with rep points. (not focusing on one person in particular, and doesn't apply to everyone of course, just a generalization... damn! i guess i'm AFC for saying "no offense".)
sure, it's fine to give advice if you're experienced in that particular thing... but the people who have no idea or clue whatsoever giving advice straight from someone elses words isn't 'rep+' worthy. if THAT useless "advice" was 'rep+' worthy, telling someone "use the search function / read the bible" should get double 'rep+' for leading them straight to the source.
rep points are stupid.
aaannnyyyyywaaaayyssss...
this post took me a while to write... i better be seeing a rep+ soon.
MacAvoy said:I love it when AFC's neg rep you for showing them what idiots they are being. It shows their maturity.
I think newby's are going to listen to the advice that they want to hear.DJDamage said:I don't see a problem with it as long as newbies don't dismiss and ignore the posts of new members or those without rep points.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.