B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
For all of the support you guys have given me. Don't know how much longer I will be alive...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Just wanted to say thanks...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
It's not just one girl plus I really wanted her and if it weren't for my mental disorders I would have had her. My problems will destroy future potential relationships anyway...
Take care of your mental problems and those girls will flock to you. Stay close to people who care about you as you work on improving.
Von
Master Don Juan
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Everybody has mental problems.
Everybody has mental issues.
Find a way to put everything in order to make it livable and manageable. If a pill help do it.
Your problems are far lesser than others. Be confident of how people care about you, around you. They appreciate you in their life.
You know everything is within so work on yourself. If you want to get laid without commitment hooker + condom.
Remember Honesty is a quality
Everybody has mental issues.
Find a way to put everything in order to make it livable and manageable. If a pill help do it.
Your problems are far lesser than others. Be confident of how people care about you, around you. They appreciate you in their life.
You know everything is within so work on yourself. If you want to get laid without commitment hooker + condom.
Remember Honesty is a quality
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Funny thing is I always wanted to be alpha but I was never able to do it and I now realize the reason why is my bipolar and autism. I used to think it was because of lack of knowledge and experience or character flaws. That's not the case. It's physically impossible for me to be what I wanna be and I really wish I didn't confess my issues to my ex
You don't want to die, you just want the pain to stop. I know it feels like having a girlfriend will help you, but it doesn't solve the underlying issues. A lot of us on here have struggled with mental illness and suicidal thoughts. Trust me, you don't want to kill yourself. If you really think you do, please call your local suicide line and talk to a professional there.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I don't think I'm ready for a girlfriend either. I just wish I could be what I wanna be and get what I had back (a girl who tried so hard to make it work with me). I can't stand the thought now of her knowing about my anxiety. I don't know why I make such bad decisions...
Happiness is a state of mind, not a state of circumstance. If you were just automatically the person you wanted to be, you'd have a new set of problems you couldn't handle. Self improvement is as much about the character growth of tackling difficult problems as it is the end results. It's the day to day improvement that makes you happy. Each little step. Make your bed when you get up. Clean and order your surroundings. Work on a song or a painting or go for a run. Eat a good meal. Do the smallest things you can do to improve your life moment to moment and don't stop. If you ever need to talk feel free to message me on here.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
There's probably hundreds of guys here if not thousands who have similar issues to you. You only have to look at the back posts to realise they could name this place sosperg.
Look at some of the old posts from these guys they completely turned their life around in one to two years. How much time is 2 years in your young life you've still got plenty of years to enjoy the success once you get back on track. Just make a list start a journal thread here and start the work.
Look at some of the old posts from these guys they completely turned their life around in one to two years. How much time is 2 years in your young life you've still got plenty of years to enjoy the success once you get back on track. Just make a list start a journal thread here and start the work.
