B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
For all of the support you guys have given me. Don't know how much longer I will be alive...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Just wanted to say thanks...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
It's not just one girl plus I really wanted her and if it weren't for my mental disorders I would have had her. My problems will destroy future potential relationships anyway...
Take care of your mental problems and those girls will flock to you. Stay close to people who care about you as you work on improving.
Von
Master Don Juan
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Everybody has mental problems.
Everybody has mental issues.
Find a way to put everything in order to make it livable and manageable. If a pill help do it.
Your problems are far lesser than others. Be confident of how people care about you, around you. They appreciate you in their life.
You know everything is within so work on yourself. If you want to get laid without commitment hooker + condom.
Remember Honesty is a quality
Everybody has mental issues.
Find a way to put everything in order to make it livable and manageable. If a pill help do it.
Your problems are far lesser than others. Be confident of how people care about you, around you. They appreciate you in their life.
You know everything is within so work on yourself. If you want to get laid without commitment hooker + condom.
Remember Honesty is a quality
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Funny thing is I always wanted to be alpha but I was never able to do it and I now realize the reason why is my bipolar and autism. I used to think it was because of lack of knowledge and experience or character flaws. That's not the case. It's physically impossible for me to be what I wanna be and I really wish I didn't confess my issues to my ex
You don't want to die, you just want the pain to stop. I know it feels like having a girlfriend will help you, but it doesn't solve the underlying issues. A lot of us on here have struggled with mental illness and suicidal thoughts. Trust me, you don't want to kill yourself. If you really think you do, please call your local suicide line and talk to a professional there.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I don't think I'm ready for a girlfriend either. I just wish I could be what I wanna be and get what I had back (a girl who tried so hard to make it work with me). I can't stand the thought now of her knowing about my anxiety. I don't know why I make such bad decisions...
Happiness is a state of mind, not a state of circumstance. If you were just automatically the person you wanted to be, you'd have a new set of problems you couldn't handle. Self improvement is as much about the character growth of tackling difficult problems as it is the end results. It's the day to day improvement that makes you happy. Each little step. Make your bed when you get up. Clean and order your surroundings. Work on a song or a painting or go for a run. Eat a good meal. Do the smallest things you can do to improve your life moment to moment and don't stop. If you ever need to talk feel free to message me on here.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
There's probably hundreds of guys here if not thousands who have similar issues to you. You only have to look at the back posts to realise they could name this place sosperg.
Look at some of the old posts from these guys they completely turned their life around in one to two years. How much time is 2 years in your young life you've still got plenty of years to enjoy the success once you get back on track. Just make a list start a journal thread here and start the work.
Look at some of the old posts from these guys they completely turned their life around in one to two years. How much time is 2 years in your young life you've still got plenty of years to enjoy the success once you get back on track. Just make a list start a journal thread here and start the work.
