"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just stumbled across my former one-itis' profile...

DarthJuan

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...on a dating site.

I'm pretty stoked that it doesn't freak me out to see her on there. Kind of like the spell has been lifted, for the most part.

It's kind of interesting to see what she's looking for and how it could have correlated to me.

Her personality profile is a complete 180 degrees from her real personality though. She's a world class bytch, but her personality profile pegs her as a giver. :crackup:

Her love profile says she's looking for a really romantic guy that knows how to treat her well.
Which, really didn't work out for me...kinda the reason I'm here :cry:
But I suppose that could be true, I was doing pretty well with the confident, romantic gentlemen route...but I just continued down that road way too long into AFC land and got super clingy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr.Positive

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This happened to me too Darth a few months ago..except she created a fancy myspace account.

The thing to remember is that when people do this, they are not getting the attention they need. Seeking it online is the last resort, all single friends of friends have been exhausted. Finding decent men online must be a nightmare for women with all the online predators.

Online relationships are not real and I stand by that you will not meet a quality woman online, just attention seekers.
 

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women are attention-seekers by nature. It doesn't mean they're low quality.
 

Mr.Positive

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Obsidian said:
women are attention-seekers by nature. It doesn't mean they're low quality.
True, but if they need to seek the attention from "virtual" people online, they MAY be low quality. It's just something to think about.
 

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DarthJuan said:
...on a dating site.

I'm pretty stoked that it doesn't freak me out to see her on there. Kind of like the spell has been lifted, for the most part.

It's kind of interesting to see what she's looking for and how it could have correlated to me.

Her personality profile is a complete 180 degrees from her real personality though. She's a world class bytch, but her personality profile pegs her as a giver. :crackup:

Her love profile says she's looking for a really romantic guy that knows how to treat her well.
Which, really didn't work out for me...kinda the reason I'm here :cry:
But I suppose that could be true, I was doing pretty well with the confident, romantic gentlemen route...but I just continued down that road way too long into AFC land and got super clingy.
What do you mean by 'former' one-itus?

You seem to be still in the zone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bman

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dude read your post again, you still sound obsessed with her.
 
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Well you saw her profile.

But guess what - her IL was always low anyway, so even if you currently had some sort of rapport with her, it wouldn't have made any difference to her being back online, so there is definately nothing lost there. I remember my former oneitis profile I initially responded to quite clearly - and when I was really into her - she did what she had to do and didn't care how I felt about it and strung me along. There is always indications with these oneitis that their interest level will never equal your own interest level and that's the problem.

At least the spell is gone.
 
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