"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Just stumbled across my former one-itis' profile...

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...on a dating site.

I'm pretty stoked that it doesn't freak me out to see her on there. Kind of like the spell has been lifted, for the most part.

It's kind of interesting to see what she's looking for and how it could have correlated to me.

Her personality profile is a complete 180 degrees from her real personality though. She's a world class bytch, but her personality profile pegs her as a giver. :crackup:

Her love profile says she's looking for a really romantic guy that knows how to treat her well.
Which, really didn't work out for me...kinda the reason I'm here :cry:
But I suppose that could be true, I was doing pretty well with the confident, romantic gentlemen route...but I just continued down that road way too long into AFC land and got super clingy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This happened to me too Darth a few months ago..except she created a fancy myspace account.

The thing to remember is that when people do this, they are not getting the attention they need. Seeking it online is the last resort, all single friends of friends have been exhausted. Finding decent men online must be a nightmare for women with all the online predators.

Online relationships are not real and I stand by that you will not meet a quality woman online, just attention seekers.
 
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women are attention-seekers by nature. It doesn't mean they're low quality.
 
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Obsidian said:
women are attention-seekers by nature. It doesn't mean they're low quality.
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True, but if they need to seek the attention from "virtual" people online, they MAY be low quality. It's just something to think about.
 
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DarthJuan said:
...on a dating site.

I'm pretty stoked that it doesn't freak me out to see her on there. Kind of like the spell has been lifted, for the most part.

It's kind of interesting to see what she's looking for and how it could have correlated to me.

Her personality profile is a complete 180 degrees from her real personality though. She's a world class bytch, but her personality profile pegs her as a giver. :crackup:

Her love profile says she's looking for a really romantic guy that knows how to treat her well.
Which, really didn't work out for me...kinda the reason I'm here :cry:
But I suppose that could be true, I was doing pretty well with the confident, romantic gentlemen route...but I just continued down that road way too long into AFC land and got super clingy.
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What do you mean by 'former' one-itus?

You seem to be still in the zone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dude read your post again, you still sound obsessed with her.
 
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Well you saw her profile.

But guess what - her IL was always low anyway, so even if you currently had some sort of rapport with her, it wouldn't have made any difference to her being back online, so there is definately nothing lost there. I remember my former oneitis profile I initially responded to quite clearly - and when I was really into her - she did what she had to do and didn't care how I felt about it and strung me along. There is always indications with these oneitis that their interest level will never equal your own interest level and that's the problem.

At least the spell is gone.
 
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