Just had a successful first date and ran into a problem

[SMG]

Just spend close to $200 on my mom for her birthday and with my rent being due this week I won't have money to go out on a date until june 12th

Up until my date on Friday I was getting rejected by average looking girls and then all of a sudden the girl I meet on friday night who was HOT is interested in a second date. Totally unexpected


So I guess have to lie until June 12th?

 

[SMG]

Yup, I have a very similar situation except I'm not allowed to leave home for a little while.

Had to cancel a date today and it pissed me off. I wouldnt tell her why, just say you have a lot of things going on (which is a great way to get her wondering how interesting you are and what not), and tell her the first day you're free is June 12th.

If she has a high IL like she seems to have, she can wait. And she will.

I thought about maybe tweaking the budget a little to squeeze another date next weekend so that June 12th won't seem so long.

 

[WanderingMan]

You could try something simple - low cost. You probably should either way.

 

[SMG]

You could try something simple - low cost. You probably should either way.

But no place is really cheap these when you are talking about two people and a tip lol

 

[WanderingMan]

But no place is really cheap these when you are talking about two people and a tip lol

Why don't you have her pay half?

 

[SMG]

Why don't you have her pay half?

But if you do that early on that's a considered a turn off to a woman

 

[WanderingMan]

But if you do that early on that's a considered a turn off to a woman

Says who?

 

[SMG]

Says who?

Almost every woman I have spoken to

 

[WanderingMan]

Almost every woman I have spoken to

Did these same girls tell you they don't understand why they can't just find a "nice guy"?

Why not just go have one drink - chit chat - then go? If she's interested, and it doesn't look like you're going to be ordering rounds of shots, then she'll order the drinks. It's not the 1950's anymore. Worst case scenario, you get stuck paying for two drinks (hers and yours). Then next time invite her over to your place, or use it as a buffer date until you get paid. No big deal either way (IMO).

I do understand where you're coming from though. Dates and banging chicks can be expensive, but they don't have to be.

 

[SMG]

Did these same girls tell you they don't understand why they can't just find a "nice guy"?

Why not just go have one drink - chit chat - then go? If she's interested, and it doesn't look like you're going to be ordering rounds of shots, then she'll order the drinks. It's not the 1950's anymore. Worst case scenario, you get stuck paying for two drinks (hers and yours). Then next time invite her over to your place, or use it as a buffer date until you get paid. No big deal either way (IMO).

I do understand where you're coming from though. Dates and banging chicks can be expensive, but they don't have to be.

I don't drink

 

[WanderingMan]

I don't drink

What were you planning on doing?

 

[SMG]

What were you planning on doing?

Not sure yet, some kind of activity with dinner attached

 

[guru1000]

How is this a problem?

I have a friend who is a plastic surgeon who goes on 2-3 first dates a week. He refuses to pay for the first dates as "100 first dates a year can be 'costly.'" Lol. So he pulls the ol' "I forgot my wallet at home, do you got this?"

Not my style, but it works well for him.

 

[Obsidian]

Just go hiking or something.

 

[VladPatton]

Dinner??? Fûckin Starbucks that shît, she ain't you wife yet. Keep it cheap man.

 

[cola]

"I'm tired, been pulling extra time at work let's order out and watch movies at my place". My go to when cash is low. 20$ for delivery, 1$ for redbox, usually turns into sex.

 

[SMG]

"I'm tired, been pulling extra time at work let's order out and watch movies at my place". My go to when cash is low. 20$ for delivery, 1$ for redbox, usually turns into sex.

I think that only works for average or below average looking woman. Not a woman is attractive and has men coming at her all the time

 

[bigneil]

If you can't afford to take a girl on a date, get a better job. Sell something on eBay. Mow a lawn. There is no excuse being destitute for 2 weeks.

 

[SMG]

If you can't afford to take a girl on a date, get a better job. Sell something on eBay. Mow a lawn. There is no excuse being destitute for 2 weeks.

I didn't say I couldn't afford it, I just spent close to $200 on my mom for her birthday and now my rent is due. So I can maybe squeeze in one more date before June 12th and that's it.

And keep in mind I still have to pay bills and put money in my savings in addition to dating

 

[Instinct1978]

Where do you live? There are tons of great dates here in North Carolina at little to no cost.

Best options:
I would go for a walk / hike through the mountains, have a picnic in the park, meet downtown and people watch, go window shopping at a mall, etc...

Not so... But:
If you want to be slick, make a reservation at a fancy restaurant, the day before, politely ask her to confirm them for you because you are a busy doing whatever... Then, about 2 hours before the date, call and say something is going on (Family emergency).

"Hey HB! I am terribly sorry, but my mother fell down the steps and I have to run to check on her." She'll more than likely reply with a sympathy text or call. Then just say "I do feel horrible about having to reschedule. I shouldn't be more than an hour, you should come by at 8:00 and try my famous (Insert something you can cook).