Just got nothing to say

[Kravy]

Hey,all

I was wondering if anyone has any tips on when you get those awkward moments ,where you got nothing to say and you realy want to get conversation going ?

 

[Ice Cold]

You don't have to talk 100 percent of the time.

Ask what's the best thing for her to do for fun.

IMO this usually happens because you don't kino her enough. Cause the topics of conversation are done and you still can't talk sex.

Good thing happens when during the usual talk there was kino, and if you run out of stuff to say you just kiss.

Cheers

 

[gav]

In those awkward moments, relax and take in your surroundings. Try to start whistling and wait until that other person decides to resume the convo. I've noticed a lot of people who whistle to make up for lack of discussion. I've got entire albums lined up in my head at the moment, so if they don't resume the convo, i'll just play the next track . If they resume the convo, it will tell you something about them as a person and even if they don't resume the convo, you can learn a lot about them. Remember it takes 2 people to make a conversation.

While whistling or taking in your surroundings, be observational. Look for funny shyt that stands out and doesn't quite mix with the environment. read casanova's post on humour for this. It is gold for humour.

 

[Skel]

I personally would skip the whistling part. This is easy anyways. If you dont have anything to say, say this "So what are you thinking"?

 

[DJUofS]

Originally posted by Kravy
Hey,all

I was wondering if anyone has any tips on when you get those awkward moments ,where you got nothing to say and you realy want to get conversation going ?

Why do you feel awkward? If you feel awkward, that will make the entire convo awkward. Instead of feeling this way, just chill out... but remember, if you initiate the conversation you have to have idea's of what to say. If she responds well, it will generally flow. If she initiates the conversation, it is her job to keep it going.

 

[Dropt03Ranger]

all you gotta do like stated above is relax...dont let it make you feel awkward then its gonna all go downhill...just get a random thought and ask her about it...hell make it funny too if possible...chicks love little jokes that can make them laugh

 

[Locke]

these "awkward moments" are perfect opportunities for some great EC.

 

[Kravy]

Hey,thanks for replies

Yeh,I usualy just ride it out and try find things around my enviroment to talk about,but pretty hard sometimes.

Im new to the board,so dont know what Kino or EC ?

 

[Maxtro]

I was going to say the exact same thing that Locke said. EC is eye contact. Kino is touching her lightly during conversations in safe areas. Her arm's, shoulder, upper back, hands, knees.

 

[Kravy]

Heres what happend ,sorry if its pretty long

Its pretty weird position im in,because this girl was at party i went to before.

She told my mate she was interested in me.

Then what happend is she saw us talking about her and she giggled and ran of lol in that cute way like a school girl, because i think she was following me around a bit seeing what i was up to so she saw us and knew.

Then i tried talking to her and all she could do is giggle with realy big pretty smile on her face,because we were all pretty drunk.

Then this is where went down hill for me,where drinks started to attack my defence,another chick come up to me started talking to me and rubbing up to me ,but realy wasnt too interested in her,but she kinda drew me in argg,and started to get with her.

She's not bad chick,but i would i rather got to know the other one,after that i she ended up getting with another guy.
and those two chicks ended up being friends with each other.
Because they were both checking me out together and they told me this.

So know i usualy talk to them online and see them around since they kind hang in same group of ours now, were not going out or anything,but the girl who ran off is going out with guy that went to the party.

And she told me about it,when she saw me get with other girl,she thought i was taken and then she went for other guy.

I still tried to talk to her after i got with other girl,there was 4 of us on this bed.
The other guy she was with was on her left side
I was on her right side and other girl that was with me was on my left side.

I still managed to make her laugh and smile, while she was putting her hands through her hair etc
Even tho she got with another guy and he was next to her,she still showed interest in me and i was kinda stealing his thunder.

But she went for other guy,since they already kind got together etc,so couldnt do much.

I told her i was interested when i saw her at the party aswell,so she was pretty surprised about whole thing

Even tho we talk and do little bit flirting,im pretty sure she is still interested in me.

Not sure if anyone,believes in body language,but something i had read up on.

Because one time where we were all sitting around in our group and i was sitting next to my mate and she was sitting on other side.
So i decided to sit more comfortable and tuck my left leg under my knee and tuck my right foot against bottom of the couch,this thing i just do.
I looked over couple mins later and i noticed she was sitting in exact mirrored pose,it was weird because i usualy sit in way that no one else realy sits like.
I didnt play with it tho,change it or anything to see if she would change

Even tho she is going out with other guy, she still seems pretty interested

 

[Ice Cold]

read "conversationally speaking"

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...104-2401862-5372767?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

Wonderful book