"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Just got nothing to say
- Thread starter Kravy
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ask what's the best thing for her to do for fun.
IMO this usually happens because you don't kino her enough. Cause the topics of conversation are done and you still can't talk sex.
Good thing happens when during the usual talk there was kino, and if you run out of stuff to say you just kiss.
Cheers
. If they resume the convo, it will tell you something about them as a person and even if they don't resume the convo, you can learn a lot about them. Remember it takes 2 people to make a conversation. While whistling or taking in your surroundings, be observational. Look for funny shyt that stands out and doesn't quite mix with the environment. read casanova's post on humour for this. It is gold for humour.
Why do you feel awkward? If you feel awkward, that will make the entire convo awkward. Instead of feeling this way, just chill out... but remember, if you initiate the conversation you have to have idea's of what to say. If she responds well, it will generally flow. If she initiates the conversation, it is her job to keep it going.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dropt03Ranger
Don Juan
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Its pretty weird position im in,because this girl was at party i went to before.
She told my mate she was interested in me.
Then what happend is she saw us talking about her and she giggled and ran of lol in that cute way like a school girl, because i think she was following me around a bit seeing what i was up to so she saw us and knew.
Then i tried talking to her and all she could do is giggle with realy big pretty smile on her face,because we were all pretty drunk.
Then this is where went down hill for me,where drinks started to attack my defence,another chick come up to me started talking to me and rubbing up to me ,but realy wasnt too interested in her,but she kinda drew me in argg,and started to get with her.
She's not bad chick,but i would i rather got to know the other one,after that i she ended up getting with another guy.
and those two chicks ended up being friends with each other.
Because they were both checking me out together and they told me this.
So know i usualy talk to them online and see them around since they kind hang in same group of ours now, were not going out or anything,but the girl who ran off is going out with guy that went to the party.
And she told me about it,when she saw me get with other girl,she thought i was taken and then she went for other guy.
I still tried to talk to her after i got with other girl,there was 4 of us on this bed.
The other guy she was with was on her left side
I was on her right side and other girl that was with me was on my left side.
I still managed to make her laugh and smile, while she was putting her hands through her hair etc
Even tho she got with another guy and he was next to her,she still showed interest in me and i was kinda stealing his thunder.
But she went for other guy,since they already kind got together etc,so couldnt do much.
I told her i was interested when i saw her at the party aswell,so she was pretty surprised about whole thing
Even tho we talk and do little bit flirting,im pretty sure she is still interested in me.
Not sure if anyone,believes in body language,but something i had read up on.
Because one time where we were all sitting around in our group and i was sitting next to my mate and she was sitting on other side.
So i decided to sit more comfortable and tuck my left leg under my knee and tuck my right foot against bottom of the couch,this thing i just do.
I looked over couple mins later and i noticed she was sitting in exact mirrored pose,it was weird because i usualy sit in way that no one else realy sits like.
I didnt play with it tho,change it or anything to see if she would change
Even tho she is going out with other guy, she still seems pretty interested
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Wonderful book