"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just got my first rejection

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And you know what? I feel fukkin great about it. It was scary as hell. I approached a brunette hottie in the mall and made conversation about her eyebrow ring and had an interesting discussion about body piercings. Got positives vibes, asked her for her number, and she told me she's got a boyfriend. Hmm, that really wasn't so bad. I would have felt better if I had gotten the number, but I really don't feel my ego has been destroyed and all that. It wasn't 1/8 as bad as I thought it would be.

All of the hype I had built up in my head was all for nothing. You either get shot down or you don't. You're still alive afterwards.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Good job, it's always good to see that one more person has seen the light. Things/situations are almost never as bad as people tend to make them out to be.
 
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I agree....good job Cube!!! Rejections aren't as bad as our minds play them out to be.


Your Djing will take on a whole new level when you no longer fear rejection...so take this success and build on it and get more rejections!
 
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You did good.

There odds are better for you than they were for Julius in his quest to become Caesar or Alexander's quest for Persia.

Remember that in the war of male/female companionship, not every battle needs to be won, but you can win with just one victory. That was just one battle.

How many other girls are there out there?
Rather think how many battles, each one is a chance for victory.
 
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Hey Cube good job. I want to make one thing clear. You in no way, shape or form got rejected because the fact that she has a boyfriend has nothing to do with you!!! You did a good job of getting over that fear that a lot of guys have towards approaching. The only thing that qualifies as a rejection is if she refuses to talk to you at all which see didn't. If she had said "get out of my face you ugly bastard" or something like that, I'd consider that rejection but that didn't happen.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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good job

congratulations

it's better to have tried and lost than to never have tried at all

That's what all guys should do, get a straightforward answer by asking. much better than fearing the rejection and regret never asking.
 
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22 and now you get your first rejection?

Either you a lucky man or you be mucho quiet!
 
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"22 and now you get your first rejection?

Either you a lucky man or you be mucho quiet!"



Well, I was with the same girl for nearly 4 years and eventually married her. So I've been out of circulation for a while. She pursued me and I never had a chance to get rejected. Before that, one drunk party slut came on to me and let me bang her. I've never been quiet, I just never went for a girl's number before now.
 
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