"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just got my first number!

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I did it, my first attempt and it was successful. I was eating in denny's with my cousin and we were talking to the waitress a lot, HB7, about 18 or 19, and I thought I would just gather up my nuts and do it. Keep in mind i'm 16 too. lol. We were chatting and kind of giving her a hard time about our drinks being empty for a while and talking about random BS, we got the check, and she walks away with my cousins debit card to pay and i say "Hey hold on!" she turns around and looks "You forgot something" I said. She walks over and asks what thinking I was just gonna give her a hard time and I said "Your number in my phone" with a smile and held my phone out, i wasnt thinking i was gonna get it, she says something about her phone being turned off or is gonna get turned off but will be turned on again in a week or something, I didnt fully understand but i said thats ok and she gives me her number and walks away. I thought she meant it was already turned off so I called it and I hear her phone ringing in the kitchen. LOL, she answered and we talked for about 10 seconds and I said ok bye bye and as we were walking out she happily said "have a good night!"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Damn - you called her after like 1 minute!!

You dont mess around do you - If you get a date with this girl - im gonna rethink everything i have ever read :crackup:

Good Job on the approach tho!

Sarge on...
so why don't i get that number?

"ok!" *gives number*

maybe i'll call you we'll get together or something,

"yah that'll be cool" *walks away*

*dials number*

"hello?"

i miss you so much!
 

Morphiex

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ahh give him a brake shezzler =P
he was just wonderin if her phone worked or not....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There are a few instances where calling the same would be OK, like when I recently overgamed a girl who gave me extreme IOIs recently. I had to call her so that I could demonstrate enough interest in her that she wouldnt feel like I was out of her league.

One minute is just kinda cheesy though. You didn't have enough IOIs or a plan for the call to make this a good move.
 

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Hey congrats on the number. Now wait until alteast Wedsday though I personally would wait until Thursday to call her. And when you do call her call around 9:30 to 10:00 p.m. The reason for this being that most woman don't really go out during the week so it will be easier to get a hold of her. Plus if it's later at night you'll be the last thing she thinks about before she goes to bed. ALWAYS a good thing. ;) Also I would say that personally the first call shouldn't be longer than 10-15 minutes. Just try to make a date to go out. Don't ask her just assume that you are going to go out on a date. Say something like "Hey lets go out to lunch together what days are you free?" See I didn't ASK her if she wanted to have lunch with me I very politely told her that she was coming then I asked her what days she has off. Good luck! And remember to have fun!
 

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Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
What the heck are IOIs?
IOI = Indicator of Interest

btw, congrats on the number :up:
 

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Good job.

Calling THAT early could be construed as C+F if you know how to use it right.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I just called to check if it was turned off or not and it was hilarious when I heard her phone ringing in the kitchen. she answered it laughing and i said "well its not turned off!" the girl was good looking and cute but not much of my type so I don't even know if i'm gonna call her. lol
 

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Nice done!

And... don't worry about that calling-thing. It was funny!

It can be a little bit ****y and charming to call or sms the same minute and write something funny. I got a number from a girl on a bus once, and the very minute she left I wrote something like "Hi, do you remember me? I don't know if im too forward now, but i just had to write you something!!!"

If the girl is really, really, stupid she'll look at you like you're desperate - But if she's THAT stupid there's nothing to gain at all anyways.

Keep it up!
 

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Personally, I think there is nothing wrong with calling it to make sure she wasn't on some b.s.
 

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Rules are made to be broken.

Once a girl gave me her phone number.

I called her about a minute later because I was looking at my outgoing phone numbers and trying to figure out who I called (I was a bit drunk, I didn't put 2 and 2 together). She answered, and she was like "you forgot me already?" and I told her "I don't remember people when I'm drunk. Next time I see you we'll just have to meet all over again." I saw her about 5 minutes later, and she runs up and says "Hi, I'm Rose and I'm awesome - so don't forget me this time!"

Well, the next day she called me and invited me to go hot tubbing at her place with her and her roommates. By 10 that night I was sitting naked in a hot tub with 3 girls I'd never met and the girl I called a minute later. They turned out to be nutcases, and I never called her back, but I had fun.

If you're funny enough about it, you can get away with anything.
 
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