"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Just got dumped..back in the game. Help me out guys..

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usscrum

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Well guys I'm back. I was here for a little last year before my first LTR, which has now ended. We dated for about a year and 4 months.

Long story short, we fought a lot. I ignored her emotional needs, she overstepped her bounds with another guy a couple months ago..we tried to get past it but that was the beginning of the end. Broke up 2 weeks ago, she spent a week begging me back. Right when I caved in an thought things were fine, she flipped it on me and said she "needed time". Turned me into a psychotic groveling ***** for the past week, but thanks to my family and friends I got a hold of my nuts and we said our farewells with no hard feelings.

Now I'm ready to begin the No Contact Challenge and the next phase of my life. Today marks day 1. Coincidentally, 2 months from today marks the day her father passed away which is always a bad day for her, so that's the only reason I plan on speaking to her again.

Going out to the club tonight with my friends trying to get back on the horse. This was my first LTR and my first love. The pain I am feeling right now cannot be put into words. But I'm going to get through this and come out a better man. I am going to treat this thread as a journal of sorts to help me get through this. If anyone has any motivational stuff they can give me, I sure need it.

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! Here we go!!!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Myrrdin

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Welcome. Just got out of a 1 year relationship 3 weeks ago. Feeling great now. Just get back on the horse. The pain will pass with time, I know it sucks. Just take your mind of things and concentrate on having fun, working out, hobbies etc. This was the same advice I got :D
 
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ken chang

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I think this is why you're suppose to always have a back up girl. I'm in a 1 year relationship now that I'm trying to get out of. Broke up with her once already, but a day later, her sister gets mugged, and a lot of her stuff gets stolen, so out of pity, I let her "un-break" us.

I'm in the process of looking for my back up girl now. Once I find her, I will end things with my current girlfriend and prepare a back up to my back up girl, or a back up back up girl.

Once you find a new girlfriend, prepare a back up next time.
 
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usscrum said:
Right when I caved in an thought things were fine, she flipped it on me and said she "needed time".
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Wow ! Why u caved in ?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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cavedweller

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uss,

There are only two ways (for a man) to cure a broken heart:

1..Get back together with her..

2..Move on and find another..
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You may want to put her behind you and never look back.

Why do think they call an ex an ex?

Question for you: If the relationship didn't work then what makes you think it will work now? I am just asking........

Good luck............................

cavedweller
 
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i was in the same boat as you man. i just brokeup with my girl of a year + a few weeks back. at first i was depressed about it, but then i started going out with my buds and having a blast. then, i started wondering why i ever got in a ltr. lol go out and spin some plates

no chick is worth getting that upset over. tons of chicks out there.

its funny i totally cut out my ex (no contact, deleted number, deleted facebook), and she's been flipping out. i dont want her back though
 
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