"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Poonani Maker

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This young, but kinda ug - not fat, just too many freckles, teller has flirted with me in the past, but it's been a good 5 months since I last saw her. All the tellers, when they find out where I work, want to jump me, I can tell, and they always hire big-titted college students. So today I go in and make a deposit. She starts asking me about the "weather out there." I say it's getting warmer, but that the forecasters have already changed their minds about this weekend blah blah. So she just blurts out that her and her friends are going skiing at blah blah. This, for me, was a decision point. Should I follow up with questions about her ski trip or just try to back away quietly? She's teetering on ugly, but I Might do her on a bad day I'm thinkin. She has a nose ring, seems like a hippy flower chick. I generally don't go for these weak kind, so I try to end the conversation and find and escape route. I could tell that she wanted me to ask her about her ski trip, but I'll see her again, and quite frankly I'm not attracted to her. Should I have just made her a plate of mine just for the sake of having a jealousy pawn when out with her? Do you pick up ANY plate you can or are you discriminating in your plates in regard to over all - God dang-it! as I write this I'm starting to imagine fvcking this hippy! Oh, well..Yet again, another opportunity crapped on by my absent mind :cry:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I use to but most times I don't anymore. The reason is because I don't want to have to put up with her when I'm not in the mood. A prime example, I've got this longtime FB, however the last time I was with her, it wasn't that great.

However I've kept her around because she'll do all kinds of favours/errands for me. Well she wanted to get together on the weekend and I was drunk but ready to go home, got an email from her and was going to go to her house but I decided that I didn't want my ride to know that I was banging her. So I bailed.

Well the next day she called, wanted me to go see her and I just didn't want to even have to deal with her. So I find its not worth it chasing plates that you don't really want anymore.
 
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It's entirely up to you. I personally wouldn't hump a chick I wasn't attracted to. Depending on the circumstances :)
 
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