"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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just give her a call?

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hi guys.
i'm writing from germany with my special problem. though i understand english pretty well i maybe do some mistakes in here. hope you don't mind ;-)

i am taking a course at another college once a week where this girl is in. we're chatting quiete often and smiles at me and makes a lot of other thinks that make me believe she hastn't at least any aversions to me. unfortunately i have to leave very quick after the course to catch my bus to the town where my "real" college is, so that it's hardly possible to meet except at the course room.

i'd like to date her, but i'm not the kind of guy that can ask her during the course with all the guys around. but fortunately i got her phone number accidently, taht means she didn't give it to me. would it be a good idea to call her anyway? just to say i would like to get to now her but i can't after the course. so let's have a drink at the weekend? what do you think?

great board btw
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I wouldn't call her.... If she doesn't know who you are, over the phone it could get REALLY awkward. You really should get her # from her. Just walk right up to her at the end of class, and tell her you gotta run but that you'd love to give her a call sometime. That's about the best way to do this. Fvck the other guys..... who cares who sees you... or try and meet up with her in the hallway where it's more neutral. I'm sure you don't need to make a mad dash for the door at the end of class. you can spare 2 minutes to say hi and grab her #
 

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I agree - do not call her without her giving it to you.

You have to approach her and ask her at some point. Take a later bus.
 

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i'd rule out that she won't know who i am at the phone..

some more details: got her number from a course partcipants list which i found on the web. so if she writes her number down there she maybe wants to be called..

i'm not sure, but i reckon she's the kind of girl that'll feel flattered if someone tries to find out her number no matter what it costs.

we chatted quiet well last time in course even though she was sitting in fron of me. when coming to a "partner-exercise" she turned round and asked whether i'd like to be her partner. after finishing that, she turned back only half way and really started to loll about in front of me. in fact the only thing that prevented me from talking to her after the class was that i had to run to the toilet. since i met her everytime before sometime later in the hallway as thought that wouldn't be a problem this time. but it was, she was already gone. maybe she just saw me rushing out the classroom, so that she wanted to follow me but didn't see where i actually went. just an idea :) she normally doesn't come out of the building for 10 minutes after class finishes. and this time she was gone after 2 minutes.
 

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Originally posted by MrD
i'd rule out that she won't know who i am at the phone..

some more details: got her number from a course partcipants list which i found on the web. so if she writes her number down there she maybe wants to be called..

i'm not sure, but i reckon she's the kind of girl that'll feel flattered if someone tries to find out her number no matter what it costs.
She'll likely think 1) you're a stalker 2) you don't have the balls to ask her for her number.

If she'd be impressed that you got her number "no matter what it costs", then risk your self-esteem and rejection by asking her in person for her number. That's far more costly than looking it up online, don't you think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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the more i think about it, the more i agree with you. the only advantage of giving her a call, is that i can come in touch with her some days earlier. but in this case time surely isn't money. ;)
 

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If you're to make a move, make it NOW. Otherwise, you just earned yourself a lady-friend.

At least you have some kind of rapport here... I say go for it, but don't put all your eggs in the same basket; she may very well say no, so be prepared.
Glück zu Dir! (my German's rusty ;) )

-Bill
 

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i meant, i can wait till tuesday, when i'll see her again, instead of calling now. these 5 more days don't matter.

@bill

danke!
 

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i did this when i was in h. school i used to get numbers from chicks and call them without asking them first.

I know it was very AFC but it worked a couple of times (most) but first i kind of made sure that the girl had liked me or atleast knew me kind of well.

altough i dont recomend it, it can work sometimes.
 

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MrD,

Do you want to bend this girl over her desk and fvck her? Does she think you have the balls to?

Have you ever poked her with your finger, touched her hand with your fingers before saying something to her, teased her, commented about your horniness, joked about her horniness?

No, no, no, no and no? Congatulations! You've found someone to play chess with! Have fun with that.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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